Polyamory

Colorado

We are relatively new to the lifestyle, and in a very wonderful quad for 10 months, and are getting close to moving in together. My wife and I have been visiting our lovers in the small town (pop 300) that they live in every week for the last 10 months. Of course, in smalltownville, the rumor mill got really cranking about 4 months into the relationship, and I'm pretty sure that just about everyone in town knows about the relationship. About 3 weeks ago, my spice (littleone) got an anonomous phone call stating that she'd better stay away from me or else. When she asked what the 'or else' was, the woman hung up. Today, they recieved a very nasty anonymous letter, condemning them as sinners, and threatening to call Social Services and have their children (ages 7, 5, and 2) taken away!

Now, littleone is beside herself with worry that she is going to lose her children. In my opinion, there should be no way that SS could take the children because of a lifestyle choice that their parents have made. We are very discreet with the sexual aspect of this relationship around the kids. They do know that when Papa and Nana visit, that mommy sleeps with papa, and daddy sleeps with nana, but other than that, they see nothing out of the normal, and are actually better off with two sets of loving parents.

Does anyone have actual experience with a situation like this? Can SS take children away from parents for the lifestyle choice they've made?

We are planning on moving in together in a town of 8000 about 50 miles away, but by my calculations, the problem won't be much better there since its my wife's and my home town. Soooooooooo, help people, what do we do?

[kat1963]

Look up Colo 18-6-501 -Adultery then tell me that Social Services couldn't make a case to take all the children out of the home.
KAT

[VG1013]

QUOTE] Originally posted by longbow17
We are very discreet with the sexual aspect of this relationship around the kids. They do know that when Papa and Nana visit, that mommy sleeps with papa, and daddy sleeps with nana, but other than that, they see nothing out of the normal, and are actually better off with two sets of loving parents.

Well, when papa and nana visit, the kids do see that mommy sleeps with papa and daddy sleeps with nana....correct? But other than that, they see nothing out of the norm?????? Are you joking or what? What is so discreet about all this??? The kids see papa going into the bedroom with mommy and nana going into the bedroom with daddy. Damn...this is confusing lol. There's nothing normal about this situation? It is adultery no matter who consents or not...so your spice (littleone) has valid reason to be worried about losing HER little one's if SS comes to visit, and decides to make a case. shesssssssssssssh!

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

I'm sure glad SOMEONE understood that post!

I couldn't figure out who the "players" are because I don't have a scorecard!

Sounds somewhat incestuous too - - going to bed with Mama and Papa!

IAAL

[VG1013]

LMFAOOOOOOOOO...I had to read it 3 times to understand it. I just hope ma & pa kettle don't drop in on them hehehe.

If you think the 7 & 5 year olds don't know what's going on you are WRONG! Children are smarter than you think!

This kind of life style IS detrimental to them!!! I wouldn't blame SS for taking those children away!

[VG1013]

Ukiah.....I couldn't agree with you more. Of course those children know what's going on. How is it discreet, if they see mama, papa, mommy and daddy going into different bedrooms with different partners???? Is this OP for real or what? If they must play house like this...why can't they go to a hotel and away from the kids is what I want to know. I think SS is going to remove the children from his littleone.

"Does anyone have actual experience with a situation like this? Can SS take children away from parents for the lifestyle choice they've made?"

I am not in Colorado, but have just such experience. An individual represented by an attorney or the Dept. of Social Services can - and will - take the children out of the home for the sole reason of the relationship. It doesn't matter what type of environment the home is. My ex was given custody of my daughter because of my living arrangement and relationship with another couple even though she was clearly in the better place.

[stealth2]

I hate to say it, longbow, but y'all are nucking futs. Yeah, little chickie-poo may well find she loses her kids over this.

[fried eggs]

"We are very discreet with the sexual aspect of this relationship around the kids."

A) In a small town, if anybody knows, everybody will soon know, including the kids.

B) Letting the kids see you swapping partners is not discreet in any fashion.

C) Please explain how you feel you are being discreet, because other than them not witnessing the actual intercourse, I haven't heard anything indicating discreetness.