Problem with parents

[helpb2me]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? VA. Sorry so long, alot of info. Hope it makes sense

My problem that I need help on: My parents own a retail store in which they feel gives them the right to express their voice on any issue they feel is important, from political matters, bad customers and even personal family issues. My fight begins when I marry and begin starting my new life bringing my child into it (My husband is not it's father, I had my child four years prior). My parents helped me raise my daughter, and when I moved out and into my husbands home (what you normally do when your married - right?) my parents were outraged that I would include my daughter and try to have my daughter spend more time with her new family to bond. I never stopped my daughter from seeing my parents, but when I would get my child to bring them home, the child would start crying and saying they didn't want to leave. My parents felt that something was happening at home to make the child not want to leave them, yet never asked "why is the child caling me between 5 to 8 times a day to see what I‘m doing while with them."

I have been married for 3 years, my parents feel the need to bad mouth both my husband and I to anyone who will listen. I took over my fathers store for a brief moment when he was going to close it down, after stopping his excessive spending habits in buying merchandise that the store couldn't afford or sell, he became outraged and kicked myself out of the store. Starting rumors about my husband and I.

When I discipline my child, my parents don't approve and tell everyone that "we're too rough on the child." One time my mother wanted to take my child out somewhere and due to my child talking back to me and refusing to do homework, I told the child it was not going out with my mother. So my mother informed my dad "I was punishing the child by not letting the child see their grandmother!" My father told me "You had better let you mother take the child out, or else!" What can I do to stop them. I have confronted them before and asked them to stop talking about issues behind our back to the public. If they have a problem they should bring it up with us, not to every John Doe who walks into their store. We find out what they say from customers who know us and tell us what they heard my parents say.

I have never not wanted my child (this is not their only grandchild) to stop seeing my parents, but due to this I have had to quite my job to make sure my child does their homework, and to bring them home without these complications with my parents. It’s been a financial burden, but I feel it has helped my child. But my parents feel that what I did, didn't need to be done.

Can I file some sort of restraining order? What else should I do?

[Gracie3787]

Originally Posted by helpb2me

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? VA. Sorry so long, alot of info. Hope it makes sense

My problem that I need help on: My parents own a retail store in which they feel gives them the right to express their voice on any issue they feel is important, from political matters, bad customers and even personal family issues. My fight begins when I marry and begin starting my new life bringing my child into it (My husband is not it's father, I had my child four years prior). My parents helped me raise my daughter, and when I moved out and into my husbands home (what you normally do when your married - right?) my parents were outraged that I would include my daughter and try to have my daughter spend more time with her new family to bond. I never stopped my daughter from seeing my parents, but when I would get my child to bring them home, the child would start crying and saying they didn't want to leave. My parents felt that something was happening at home to make the child not want to leave them, yet never asked "why is the child caling me between 5 to 8 times a day to see what I‘m doing while with them."

I have been married for 3 years, my parents feel the need to bad mouth both my husband and I to anyone who will listen. I took over my fathers store for a brief moment when he was going to close it down, after stopping his excessive spending habits in buying merchandise that the store couldn't afford or sell, he became outraged and kicked myself out of the store. Starting rumors about my husband and I.

When I discipline my child, my parents don't approve and tell everyone that "we're too rough on the child." One time my mother wanted to take my child out somewhere and due to my child talking back to me and refusing to do homework, I told the child it was not going out with my mother. So my mother informed my dad "I was punishing the child by not letting the child see their grandmother!" My father told me "You had better let you mother take the child out, or else!" What can I do to stop them. I have confronted them before and asked them to stop talking about issues behind our back to the public. If they have a problem they should bring it up with us, not to every John Doe who walks into their store. We find out what they say from customers who know us and tell us what they heard my parents say.

I have never not wanted my child (this is not their only grandchild) to stop seeing my parents, but due to this I have had to quite my job to make sure my child does their homework, and to bring them home without these complications with my parents. It’s been a financial burden, but I feel it has helped my child. But my parents feel that what I did, didn't need to be done.

Can I file some sort of restraining order? What else should I do?

You don't need a restraining order to stop thier interference in your parenting of your daughter. What you need is to stand up to your parents, tell them that if they do not stop emotionally abusing your daughter (which is basically what they are doing) you will no longer allow them to be a part of her life. Then, for your daughter's sake- stick to it.

As for them spreading rumors, talking about you to customers, there really isn't much you can do. Try to look at it from the customers' point of view- what would YOU think of someone if they were telling you all kinds of bad things about thier own child? Would you think, oh, thier child is a terrible person, or would you think, wow, how can parents talk that way about thier own child?

IF you have PROOF of anything untrue that they said having caused you actual harm- turned down for job, turned down for loan, that type of damage, then you could try filing a small claims suit. However, the best thing that you can do at this point is to distance your family from your parents.