Relocation & how to approach other parent

State of Kansas
I am the custodial parent and would like some advice on is the best way to let the other parent know that I am going to relocate out of state. I know that I have to give 30 days written notice (certified mail).
However, wouldn't it be better to talk it out first and give other parent notice?
I already have a job set up in the other state. Family is also there. Please help, any advice is helpful.
If anyone has done this before, please help and give me some tips.
The non-custodial parent is not from Kansas. NCP is married and has two children (both from the wife's first marriage) and one on the way. I have heard that NCP may take new family to his home town, out of state.

[Edited by fearless on 01-27-2001 at 07:14 PM]

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by fearless
State of Kansas
What is the best way to let the other parent know that you are going to relocate out of state. I know that you have to give 30 days written notice (certified mail). However, wouldn't it be better to talk it out first and give other parent notice? Any advice is helpful.
Job is already set up in the other state. Family is also there. Please help.

My response:

Are you the CP or the NCP ? If you are the CP, you will be required to file a Petition with the court for proper move-away orders. What do your court orders state concerning "move-aways" ?

IAAL

[jyoung]

it is always better to talk it out first instead of dropping a bombshell. You know best what sort of relationship there is with the ex so its a judgement call on
the timing of the thirty day written notice, after which
the ex can deny permission and take you to court to prove the necessity of the move and whether it is in the best interest of the child. Do a little research here and discuss with an attorney

[url]http://www.ink.org/public/legislative/statutes/statutes.cgi[/url]

I moved from TX to VA w/my 2 kids and new husband. The way I informed the NCP was by telling him first then giving him a written notice. This way he can't claim that you never told him. Being nice is great but don't let that cloud your judgment as to the legality of the situation.