rights of father terminated

I would like to know when would be the only time that I could have the rights of the biological father terminated? He doesn't do anything. My son came home 2 weekends ago and told me that his dad had him go on top of the roof to hang up christmas lights(only 4). His dad's sister and her girlfriend told my son he could not go to sleep because he had to stay up and watch movies with them and he told them he was tired, but they were still trying to keep him up I know also because I went to the house it was after 10pm because my son wanted to go home and they told him he couldn't and they said to my son let's go watch some movies I'm thinking he does have a certain bedtime, but they don't care I'm afraid he might have a serious accident over there at the rate they are going. My son knows when something isn't right to do that could endanger him he is pretty smart and there is no telling what his dad might have him do next. Help. I live in TX

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Originally posted by mira89
I would like to know when would be the only time that I could have the rights of the biological father terminated? He doesn't do anything. My son came home 2 weekends ago and told me that his dad had him go on top of the roof to hang up christmas lights(only 4). His dad's sister and her girlfriend told my son he could not go to sleep because he had to stay up and watch movies with them and he told them he was tired, but they were still trying to keep him up I know also because I went to the house it was after 10pm because my son wanted to go home and they told him he couldn't and they said to my son let's go watch some movies I'm thinking he does have a certain bedtime, but they don't care I'm afraid he might have a serious accident over there at the rate they are going. My son knows when something isn't right to do that could endanger him he is pretty smart and there is no telling what his dad might have him do next. Help. I live in TX

My response:

Absolutely !

Run, don't walk, to your nearest Family Law attorney and have his Dad's parental rights TERMINATED !

This is a grevious injustice and detriment to your 3 year old son !

My God - - having him put up Christmas lights and watching movies until, only God knows, what hour !

Please, in the best interests of your son, please, please, have that man's parental rights terminated as soon as possible. We attorneys just love to have our pockets lined.

IAAL

[tigger22472]

I knew we could count on you IAAL. As a mom looking to terminate rights even I thought this one was outrageous!!!!!!!!

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Can you imagine what this mother might do if her kid scrapes his knee while his father has visitation ?

Probably want to chop the father's gonads off. Kinda overreactive, just a little ?

You know, I would have divorced this woman too !

IAAL

can you believe my ex-husband called me yesterday(friday) and asked me of what he should get his own son for christmas I'm like go figure it out your supposed to be his dad if you are man enough to have a child than you should be man enough to know what things your child likes, but he doesn't take the time to know what he likes to do or anything, but he complains about getting him for a visit. Everybody has to tell him what to do with his child because he can't think for himself. He doesn't have a car or a drivers license. I just can't believe he would ask such a question I can, but i can't. something has to give somewhere. As a matter of fact my husband wants to adopt my son, but they say he(ex-husband)has to sign the papers I mean there has to be another way some how, but i pretty know much of what it might be well its probably because the sister's girlfriend has become attached to my son.

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My further response:

I think "Mira89" and "Mommymisses" should get together - - however, I don't think that between the two of them either of them can come up with anything that's actionable.

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Something else is happening in their lives besides what they have posted on these boards. But, who knows?

IAAL

[tigger22472]

This is going to sound soooo harsh so I apologize before I even start. And hopefully more will see this and show you what I'm sure of and that is that I'm not the only one feeling this way.


As a CP that has two children that are 8 and 11 I know what it TRUELY means to have a parent who's right should be revoked... and let me tell you the reasons you have given are NO WHERE CLOSE TO THEM. FIRST off, you have a father that wants to be a part of his childs life and so does his family. SECONDLY... kids get scrapes and get hurt every now and then and some even often. THIRDLY... This father cares enough to not only see the child but to buy him presents for Christmas!!!!!! Read a little bit around this site and you will see all the posts from people who the NCP doesn't even do that... let alone see the children or be a part of their lives. FOURTHLY...(is that spelled right?) I'm sure you're not a PERFECT mother so why expect him to be a PERFECT father. Maybe he called to see what you were getting him or he just wanted to make sure that what he got him your son would TRUELY enjoy. Not everyone knows how to just jump in and parent... hell that's part of the reason we are all here... looking for advice!!!!!!! I find it AMAZING that you have the nerve to come here and bring up these petty things. MY GOD... let him be a father to your child, he seems to want to be and if you have to help along the way SO BE IT. AND LASTLY....The fact that your husband wants to adopt him and you are SOOOOOOOO willing and looking for ways to do it is BS. I too have a wonderful bf that if we were to marry I wouldn't mind letting him adopt my children, however their father doesn't have ANYTHING to do with them. However he wouldn't put my children in that position. I can hear things at your house now. No wonder your son complains about going over there... I'm sure you drill him everytime he comes back and if he bumps his head your going off. Now ask yourself who is the bad parent.

[TNBSMommy]

I have to agree with Tigger, this is all petty stuff, and you should be d@mn grateful your son has a father who is interested enough to be there. MY son and daughter have not seen their father since Easter. Why? B/c when I took him to court to get a more stable visitation set up, he didn't even show up in court. The judge said when he comes to court, or even JUST CALLS MY LAWYER OR THE JUDGE!!! he can have visitation with them again. Guess what, we haven't heard from him since. I am not vindictive, nor did I set out for this to happen. My father died when I was 13. The LAST thing I want is for my kids to grow up without knowing their father. I would give my right arm(Its ok, I am left handed ) to have him take enough of an interest in their lives to do what he can to be there, not be chicken sh*t b/c he is scared he will go to jail if he walks in to a courtroom. And why would he be scared?? B/c he owes me OVER $50,000, and yes I know how many zeros are there, that is fifty THOUSAND!!! in back CS he owes me not to mention what is going to be added to that since he doesn't pay it now. And you know what? In the past, when he was there, he asked me many times what to get them, and I would always tell him things I wanted to get them, but couldn't, or something like that. So you should count your lucky stars he wants to be there, and takes an interest. There are alot of us who would LOVE to have that problem**************.

my son's father never wanted to come around in the first place the last ex-wife not me was forcing him to go see his son alot of the times he wouldn't and his ex-wife was even helping out in child support because he wouldn't work and till this day he hardly works and he only wants him only around holidays and he only sees him a few times a year about 3-4 times now come on this is not a daddy! He still lives with his momma and stepdad 34yrs old and thinks like a child has everybody thinking for him. His momma doesn't even like my son very well and none of the other family members ever come around except if there is trouble. All that girlfriend of his sister is trying to do his take up for him someone that will not take care of responsibilities and has another son that lives 10min away and never sees or saw I encouraged him to give him up and he did not legally, because the other one has medical problems that he wouldn't be able to handle. He does not think like a 34 yr old and you can tell him anything and he will believe it.His whole family knows he can't do it and so do we and its like give him up.

Well..gee wonder why he doesn't come around to see his son more oftern..seems like when he does see his son you find fault in that too...
I'm married and my husband still asks what to get our children for Christmas, Birthdays, etc...because like many men shopping is uncomfortable for him and he knows that if I give him some advice about it he will get them something they will enjoy.
Sounds as if you are letting your bitterness over the failed relationship with the father mar the relationship he wants to have with his son.

[tigger22472]

Just because the man is gullible and believes things easily doesn't make him a bad father. Have you tried encouraging him in taking more time with your son? I offer that advice to everyone but would especially to him for you make it sound as if he's uncapable of making decisions on his own. Everyone needs guidence now and then. You know maybe the sisters girlfriend is trying to help ease things when he's there also. By terminating a parent's rights you are cutting a parent out of your child's life. I personally am looking into doing that myself however my children's father has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with them, he's an alcoholic and fills my children's heads with lies. I would LOVE for him to buy Christmas presents for them or call them up and have a relationship with them. You situation may not be the best but damn it you have it much better then a lot of us on here. You have a father willing to take responsiblility or at least willing to try which is more then most of us have.