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What is the name of your state? Maryland

My name is Trisha and i need advice on how to handle my future mother in law. My fiance and i moved from Ohio 4 month ago into a 4 bedroom house. His mother and baby brother age 14 moved in with us, they moved from NV. well before she moved in with us she agreed it would only be fair to pay half the rent becouse there are 2 of them and 2 of us. a month after they moved in we tried to sit her down and talk to her about paying half the bills and she refused saying she never said that. she said she will only pay a 3rd even tho what she makes in one week is what my fiance and i make together in a week. she uses the excuse that her 14 yr old cant work therefor she doesnt think it is right we charge her for him! Even those my fiance and I live in the basement and they have the whole upstairs. Any time we try to talk to her about this she blows up saying she cant afford to pay that ammount but she brings in over 300 $ a week here is what Imy fiance and I have put into the house since we have been here. $5,778.83 she has given a total of $528.00. What can i do? Its not fair that every penny i make i have to put to bills becouse of her. Even tho the 14 year old is a minor isnt she still suppose to support him and not make us do it? All of us signed the lease.

thank you so much in advance
[email]ellectra21@yahoo.com[/email]

Patricia

[gowest]

You may wind up with bigger problems than your "future mother-in-law" if you leave your phone number on your post.

...glad to see you removed it.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Top Ten Things You Don't Want To Hear From Your Mother-in-Law - -

NUMBER 10: "I took the liberty of pushing our the beds together."

NUMBER 9: Your husband now has two female roommates, and for some stupid reason, he has to pretend he's gay.

NUMBER 8: Asks you for permission to introduce your husband to her sexy friend, Jennifer.

NUMBER 7: She wants you to have new basement roommates: thirty foreign guys sewing t-shirts.

NUMBER 6: That the previous owner died a year ago - - but he's still in the kitchen.

NUMBER 5: She won't pay rent because she insists it's more accurate to call your home a "tent in an Arby's parking lot."

NUMBER 4: She refuses to pay rent because the lease states that she must bathe you instead.

NUMBER 3: She says that her checkbook is not available until the second week in November.

NUMBER 2: She refers to your wedding as "a very special episode."

AND, THE NUMBER ONE Thing You Don't Want To Hear From Your Mother-in-Law - -

What she calls a "Tupperware Party," the FBI calls a "Three-Week Standoff."

IAAL

yeah i wasnt thinking straight feel like im going nuts, also added an extra 5 to the amount i put in that i fixxed

anyone? I need advice badly.I posted a note stating i would only pay my shaare of 1/4. even tho i know if she doesnt pay it can cause all of us to be evicted.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

I thought you would have figured this out by now . . .

The answer to your problem is having your fiance deal with his mother and brother - - not you.

If your fiance is comfortable with the arrangement, then just give your fiance 1/4 of the rent and expenses, and let him make up the shortfall until he gets tired of it.

Unless your fiance wants to formally evict his mother and brother, then your only other recourse is to tell your fiance that "it's either them or me - - make your choice."

IAAL

Thanks for the reply, well my fiance has taken on a 2nd job working almost 48 hours with maybe 6 hours off total in the time. He has had it with them we talked last night and he said if she dont give her share shes gone right away. how do we go about evicting. We were in the house 20 days before the mother does that make diffrence.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by Ellectra
Thanks for the reply, well my fiance has taken on a 2nd job working almost 48 hours with maybe 6 hours off total in the time. He has had it with them we talked last night and he said if she dont give her share shes gone right away. how do we go about evicting. We were in the house 20 days before the mother does that make diffrence.

My response:

What makes a "difference" is whose names are on the lease. I presume it's you and your fiance - - but not his mother or brother.
Therefore, you two have all the "rights."

Look - - you want to make this simple?

Go to your local Barnes & Nobel bookstore and buy a book called "How to Evict a Tenant". Put some bookmarks in it and then leave it on the kitchen table for his mother to see.

Perhaps she'll put two and two together and get out. If she doesn't, and needs to be smacked between the eyes with a 2X4, then have your fiance follow the instructions in the book to get them out.

IAAL

thank you thank you!
My fiance and i moved in 20 days before her and put down the whole deposit (2,200 + 1,100 first mo). Since we moved in before her does that make us the Master tenants? All of us signed the lease but she didnt sign for a month after us.She refuses to give and depoist money also.
We will go buy the book thank you very much for the advice just wanted to see since she is also on the lease if this book could help. I also posted a note 3 times that was torn down stating that I will only be paying 1/4 of the rent my share and got a email back saying that her son was her dependent and she shouldnt have to pay for him. and that anyone would see its right to only split rent 3 ways even tho they occupy way over 50% of the house. Im going to contact our States Attorney General office and give them a "what if" question to see if they can further help us. My fiance says hes tired of her using him and saying he owes her becouse she raised him 17 yrs.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

If I were you, I'd think 3 or4 times before I would marry into this family. Remember, you're not just marrying your fiance, you'll also be "marrying" his mother and brother.

Tell your fiance that you're moving out, and that when he gets his family "fixed", you'll "think about" marrying him.

But seriously, if this type of crap is already happening, you've got to make skid marks with your tires and get out as fast as you can. This is not a family "I" would want to marry into.

With "them" in the picture, and her saying and doing the things she's already doing - - and you're not even married yet - - then this "marriage" is destined for Divorce Court long before it even begins.

IAAL

I just found something that might be helpful since she is claiming him as a dependent "in order to claim someone as your dependent, You must truly pay more then 50% of their living expenses" Called the State attorney office and was on hold for an hour... but it is well worth it.
I cant and wont leave my Fiance becouse of his mother its not fair to him. He wrote a 4 page letter to her telling her he and i refuse to pay for her child.