Running out of time!!please help!!

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I really need advice! My boyfriend of 3yrs is far behind in child support for his 1st child by his 1st marriage. His ex-wife's husband wants to adopt my boyfriends son, but we have to get it done by Dec.4th. Me and my boyfriend have a 5month old daughter and I don't want him to go to jail. His ex and son live in kentucky and we live in tennessee but their divorce took place in a whole different county. Help me... I can't lose him. He loves his son but the new husband is in the military and they will soon be moving. We can barely make ends meet ourselves without paying his child-support. What can we do... The ex's new husband can't get off his military job to go in front of the judge... I really need advice fast...

well lets see he has a kid he cant pay for and then he has another by you...

DUH DUH DUH..

Tell him if he is a MAN, he would pay his back child support or give up the child to someone who can pay.

come on you get pregnant by a guy who cant pay his bills...are you NUTS?

[Grace_Adler]

If his ex wife won't do what they call "forgiving" him of the arrears, he's still going to have to pay that. If he ends up going to court, he's either going to have to pay the entire lump sum to avoid going to jail or make a payment arrangement with them. I don't know how strict they are about putting people in jail there but here they will throw you in there if you don't do one of the things I mentioned. Also if you make a payment arrangement you have to put down a large amount of what you owe. He will still owe this money even if his child his adopted but he will not be responsible for future support. I'm assuming there is a court order for support.

As far as the adoption, someone is probably going to have to go consult with an attorney to get the ball rolling. They should be able to tell you how to do it yourself if you can't afford to hire one. If they really want to adopt the child, he'll find a way to go to court, especially once he has a summons in his hands to show his commander, supervisor or whoever he reports to.

You can contact the bar association to see if they offer a referral program where they refer you to an attorney and you can get a consult for a reduced fee.

You may be able to search online and see if you can find out how to do it yourself.

Originally posted by boane1
Tennessee:What is the name of your state? [SIZE=3]12[/SIZE]
I really need advice! My boyfriend of 3yrs is far behind in child support for his 1st child by his 1st marriage. His ex-wife's husband wants to adopt my boyfriends son, but we have to get it done by Dec.4th. Me and my boyfriend have a 5month old daughter and I don't want him to go to jail. His ex and son live in kentucky and we live in tennessee but their divorce took place in a whole different county. Help me... I can't lose him. He loves his son but the new husband is in the military and they will soon be moving. We can barely make ends meet ourselves without paying his child-support. What can we do... The ex's new husband can't get off his military job to go in front of the judge... I really need advice fast...

He really is a changed man now. he does support me as I go to school and he supports our child. He pays all of our bills. He wasn't ready to be a father when he had his 1st child but now he has grown up and is taking responsibility. He doesn't have a good relationship with his ex-wife and she is difficult when he asked to see his son when he was caught up on child support... He is a good man and a good father to our child now.