shared joint legal custody

i need to know if anyone out there has been involved with a custody battle where the gal agrees the child should go to a particular school therefore given the father easier access. the child is 4 year old. also what is the percentage of cases where this type of situation works out for the child?

[snostar]

In most cases where both parents are actively involved in the child's life, shared joint custody works out very well for the child (especially if both parents live within a reasonable distance from each other - permitting both parents easier access to the child). That is why it is recommended.

It has worked fine for me. I have a 7 year old and his father and I get along great although we have not been together for years. We do not ever fight and we discuss everything from school to sports. The father is very active in his life seeing him 2-4 times a week. If the parents do not fight (which means sacrifices on both sides) the child stays happy and well adjusted.

[nextwife]

Another regular contributor has 50% exactly shared custody, and it works out very well. The child is two weeks at one home (with the opposite parent having visitatiion that period and so on) and two weeks at the other parent. The child has their own room and "stuff" at each place, so they don't need to drag everything with them each switch. Read the research, it's very positive.

I can agree with that. In my situation his father travels a lot and is a confirmed bachelor. I like things the way they are. We have a happy and well adjusted child. As you say though, our son has a room and his things here and the same thing at his fathers. My mother always told me "There are no illegitimate children, only illegitimate parents". For me it is worth working problems out because fighting only hurts the child.