Somebody, please help...

I live in Missouri. My divorce decree and parenting plan was court ordered in Missouri. We were all born in Missouri, and so on and so forth.

Okay, BRIEFLY, here's my dilemma. I have been divorced since October of 2001. I have primary physical custody of my daughter, and my ex-husband has visitation rights, every Wednesday from 6:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m., and every other weekend from Friday night at 6:00 p.m. to Sunday night at 6:00 p.m. We share joint legal custody. He has payed child support a total of one month since October 2001. My ex-husband has recently taken a night job, from 3:30 p.m. to 12:00 am, Monday through Friday. For the past two months or so, I have been trying to work with him with his visitations. For example, letting him have his visit from 12:00 to 3:00 on Wednesdays, and from 12:00 p.m. Saturdays to 12:00 p.m. Mondays. He is very hostile towards me, and likes to start trouble. If things do not go his way, he gets very irate, and likes to swear at me, and call me names. I do not have to alter these visitations because he has taken a night job, do I? By law? What happens if he doesn't pick his daughter up at his court ordered times? The reason I am asking this, is because I am going back to work, full time, and I can no longer make these exceptions. Quite truthfully, I am also very tired of going out of my way for him. He keeps calling my home, leaving harassive messages on my answering machine. He says that I will be held in contempt of court if I do not let him see our daughter. The problem is, he works during his scheduled times to have her, and is not willing to find another job. I am tired of being cussed at, harrassed, and threatened. What are my options? Am I in the wrong here?

Please help! And thank you in advance to everyone who has taken the time to read this!!!

Originally posted by nicolemarie
I live in Missouri. My divorce decree and parenting plan was court ordered in Missouri. We were all born in Missouri, and so on and so forth.

Okay, BRIEFLY, here's my dilemma. I have been divorced since October of 2001. I have primary physical custody of my daughter, and my ex-husband has visitation rights, every Wednesday from 6:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m., and every other weekend from Friday night at 6:00 p.m. to Sunday night at 6:00 p.m. We share joint legal custody. He has payed child support a total of one month since October 2001. My ex-husband has recently taken a night job, from 3:30 p.m. to 12:00 am, Monday through Friday. For the past two months or so, I have been trying to work with him with his visitations. For example, letting him have his visit from 12:00 to 3:00 on Wednesdays, and from 12:00 p.m. Saturdays to 12:00 p.m. Mondays. He is very hostile towards me, and likes to start trouble. If things do not go his way, he gets very irate, and likes to swear at me, and call me names. I do not have to alter these visitations because he has taken a night job, do I? By law? What happens if he doesn't pick his daughter up at his court ordered times? The reason I am asking this, is because I am going back to work, full time, and I can no longer make these exceptions. Quite truthfully, I am also very tired of going out of my way for him. He keeps calling my home, leaving harassive messages on my answering machine. He says that I will be held in contempt of court if I do not let him see our daughter. The problem is, he works during his scheduled times to have her, and is not willing to find another job. I am tired of being cussed at, harrassed, and threatened. What are my options? Am I in the wrong here?

Please help! And thank you in advance to everyone who has taken the time to read this!!!

The only visitations which you can be held in contempt for violation are those spelled out in the divorce decree. If the visitation schedule is no longer workable for him, then it is his responsibility to file suit for a modification of the visitation because it is no longer workable because of his employment.