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Old 11-15-2005, 10:13 AM
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I live in Texas and my 18 yr old son has gotten his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant. They want to live together with me in my home. Her mother wants her to live with her about 2 hours away? Does anyone haveany advise for me to help my son?
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Old 11-15-2005, 10:35 AM
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Really, NEITHER of you should be facilitating a 16 year old CHILD shacking up with her boyfriend!

Adoption is a really good idea. Sixteen year olds should be completing their education and learning a SUSTAINABLE carreer. Not being encouraged to parent a baby and live with a boyfriend!
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Old 11-15-2005, 11:10 AM
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Age of consent in Texas is 17. Be wise when picking your battles....consider yourself lucky that your son isn't facing a "statuatory rape charge".
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Old 11-15-2005, 11:54 AM
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abortion or adoption- otherwise they, girl especially, will never be able to attain what their potential is.
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Old 11-15-2005, 01:21 PM
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A 16-year-old is a minor and cannot leave home without parental consent or being emancipated (fyi--being pregnant does not emancipate a person). If she leaves home, Mom can report her a runaway and have her picked up and returned home, and you can be facing charges for taking her in/assisting her.
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Old 11-15-2005, 01:55 PM
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I live in Texas and my 18 yr old son has gotten his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant. They want to live together with me in my home. Her mother wants her to live with her about 2 hours away? Does anyone haveany advise for me to help my son?
At such a young age, if they weren't living together before there was a baby on the way, there is no reason for them to live together now. If they couldn't support themselves before, how are they going to do that now with an extra mouth to feed?
Seriously, I think both CHILDREN should stay with their respective parents who can help out financially and with child care until the 2 CHILDREN are out of school, can get halfway decent paying jobs and THEN start playing house.
Getting pregnant as teens does not make them adults overnight, quite the opposite.
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Old 11-15-2005, 02:50 PM
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Texas Iagree That They Are No Where Ready To Be Adults, I Just Need Some Advise To Help My Son. As He Is Graduating This Yearand She Will Be Next Year. He Has Every Intention On Doing The Right Thing For Her And The Child. (which Most His Age Would Not)
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Old 11-15-2005, 02:53 PM
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Age of consent in Texas is 17. Be wise when picking your battles....consider yourself lucky that your son isn't facing a "statuatory rape charge".
I would like to correct you on that as long as there is no more than a two year age difference it is considered consentual in the state of Texas. I have already checked into that.
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Old 11-15-2005, 02:58 PM
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Really, NEITHER of you should be facilitating a 16 year old CHILD shacking up with her boyfriend!

Adoption is a really good idea. Sixteen year olds should be completing their education and learning a SUSTAINABLE carreer. Not being encouraged to parent a baby and live with a boyfriend!
we have discussed that and that is not an option for them. I do not condone what they have done, but I am also trying to be supportive of my children and the decisions that they have made. they are both very mature and resposible kids, yes, kids, that is why I would want them staying in my home where they can get the support that they need and still be able to finish school
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Old 11-15-2005, 03:10 PM
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And why can't they do that with HER Mom?
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Old 11-15-2005, 03:26 PM
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#1 Why does this GF's mom live 2 hours away?

#2 Who has been taking care of this 16-year-old GIRL?

#3 Is there a reason that you don't think her mother is as capable as you are?


Something is missing from this story!
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Old 11-15-2005, 03:27 PM
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Let the, probably scared, pregnant girl stay with her mom if that's what she and/or the mom wants. That way she'll have her mom's support and guidance, not to mention mom's healthcare plan during the pregnancy and delivery.
Daddy can still visit. The 2 teenagers don't HAVE to live together. Since they have already proven lack of mature judgement/behaviour, the worse thing to do is give them an open house where they can continue that.
Show them how a structure, stable, mature family life is supposed to be before shoving them together to play house, when they are clearly not ready.
If they were so mature they would have used protection and planned for a better start for their family when they were old enough to actually offer a child something.
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