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Old 12-28-2007, 04:59 PM
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Spouse's legal status re: my kids

What is the name of your state? Utah

My husband and I realized a few days ago that we don't really understand the nature of his legal relationship to my kids. He is legally their stepfather but does that automatically imply guardianship. Their father is still (somewhat) in the picture but lives in another state. Do we need to get some kind of legal papers drawn up or is the fact that he is my husband enough to give him legal authority to make medical or other decisions for them?
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Your husband has no legal relationship to the children. If for some reason something happened to you, dad would step in. Dad's rights are superior to your current husband.
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You may be able to draw up a Power of Attorney document to allow your husband to make certain decisions. If you are really concerned, it might be worth it to pay for a consultation with a local family law attorney.
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Old 12-28-2007, 08:02 PM
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You may be able to draw up a Power of Attorney document to allow your husband to make certain decisions. If you are really concerned, it might be worth it to pay for a consultation with a local family law attorney.
I agree with this advice, however if you and dad have joint legal custody (despite the fact that dad is in another state) then you can't even make medical decisions without dad's imput, let alone someone to whom you designate power of attorney.
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What is the name of your state? Utah

My husband and I realized a few days ago that we don't really understand the nature of his legal relationship to my kids. He is legally their stepfather but does that automatically imply guardianship. Their father is still (somewhat) in the picture but lives in another state. Do we need to get some kind of legal papers drawn up or is the fact that he is my husband enough to give him legal authority to make medical or other decisions for them?
As sad as it may seem, he does not have a legal relationship to your children. I am sorry to say that because I know he really must love your children since he is the stepfather and it is very hard for him to accept that he is not their daddy. But he can still love them and care for them> Being legally something doesn't really matter that much does it? The children at least have his love.
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As sad as it may seem, he does not have a legal relationship to your children. I am sorry to say that because I know he really must love your children since he is the stepfather and it is very hard for him to accept that he is not their daddy. But he can still love them and care for them> Being legally something doesn't really matter that much does it? The children at least have his love.
Where do you get this stuff from? Why is it sad that these kids have a father and that mom wants to usurp the fathers rights in favor of her current lover?
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Where do you get this stuff from? Why is it sad that these kids have a father and that mom wants to usurp the fathers rights in favor of her current lover?
Actually it is fantastic that these children have a father and mother and stepparent. More people to love them. It must be sad to stepdad though because he loves the children and will never be anything more than a legal stranger to them and unable to make decisions about their education, religion, or medical care. I am doing nothing more than showing sympathy for stepdad. That is all. Are we not allowed to be sympathetic and express sweet warm fuzzy feelings to people? I just do not want the poster to believe I am mean and harsh and not being nice!
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Actually it is fantastic that these children have a father and mother and stepparent. More people to love them. It must be sad to stepdad though because he loves the children and will never be anything more than a legal stranger to them and unable to make decisions about their education, religion, or medical care. I am doing nothing more than showing sympathy for stepdad. That is all. Are we not allowed to be sympathetic and express sweet warm fuzzy feelings to people? I just do not want the poster to believe I am mean and harsh and not being nice!
This is not a support site, its a site to get legal questions answered. Therefore its not considered appropriate to do much of the warm fuzzy stuff here. It detracts from getting correct legal information to the posters. You are free to send private messages to be as sympathetic as you like, but please consider toning it down a bit on the forums. If you have a correct legal answer to a question, feel free to respond.
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Actually it is fantastic that these children have a father and mother and stepparent. More people to love them. It must be sad to stepdad though because he loves the children and will never be anything more than a legal stranger to them and unable to make decisions about their education, religion, or medical care. I am doing nothing more than showing sympathy for stepdad. That is all. Are we not allowed to be sympathetic and express sweet warm fuzzy feelings to people? I just do not want the poster to believe I am mean and harsh and not being nice!

I have my suspicions about who you are but maybe I'm just suspicious by nature.

If your posts are what I think they are, I get it. If not, ooops, you're just an extremely, very, very, warm, fuzzy person who has no legal advice to give.
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Actually it is fantastic that these children have a father and mother and stepparent. More people to love them. It must be sad to stepdad though because he loves the children and will never be anything more than a legal stranger to them and unable to make decisions about their education, religion, or medical care. I am doing nothing more than showing sympathy for stepdad. That is all. Are we not allowed to be sympathetic and express sweet warm fuzzy feelings to people? I just do not want the poster to believe I am mean and harsh and not being nice!

I have my suspicions about who you are but maybe I'm just suspicious by nature.

If your posts are what I think they are, I get it. If not, ooops, you're just an extremely, very, very, warm, fuzzy person who has no legal advice to give.
LOL, here's my vote! I think it's OG.

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Well, she is around, but I actually think a different person is her.
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Well, she is around, but I actually think a different person is her.
My next guess would be the wonderful Bay!
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Well, she is around, but I actually think a different person is her.
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My next guess would be the wonderful Bay!
And arguing with herself?????
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