Supervised Visitation

i live in northern california i have a 2 year old child, the father and i were never married. i currently have a restraining order and a no contact order for myself and my child. i have physical custody but share legal custody with father, he has supervised visits thru an agency. i have another child from a previous relationship who is involved in sports and other things and now the visitation days and times on the court order conflict with this, what can happen if i tell agency i am unable to comply with those days? which happen to be the only days and times that they are open.

I'm sure you'd like to hear that they'll think that's just fine and tell you to forget the visitations. That, however, won't be the case. Those times belong to the father and the child, and you haven't the right to change them. Do you have a relative or friend who could either take the older child to their event or the 2-year-old to the visitation?

the only person i have is my mom and she also has my 16 year old handicapped sister that she is the sole caregiver for so it makes things really difficult. the other issue is that the father has not seen our daughter since march, is there anything to prohibit him from just seeing her whenever he feels like it? i think money may have been an issue because he has to pay for the visits, but he lost his job a year ago and did not try to find one and his unemployment ran out in 2/02 so i don't know if he has an income or not and the new visitation facility runs on a sliding scale from $0-$25/hr based on income.