my children are in washington state with their mother and i now live in colorado state, because of the fact that she took me to court for modification, i could no longer afford to live in washington,and that she would always use the children in an emotional battle against me ((saying negative things about me). your father dosen't love you , your father has a new family now and doesn't want you). right now my oldest child wants to move to colorado to live with me and my wife. my ex-wife is emotionally and physically abusing my daughters (pushing them into walls, interogating them after every phone call, talking to them about everything that we are going through in court, making them listen to her and her live in boy freind say that their father is a jerk and that i don't love them). I need to know the best way to go about obtaining custody of my children without harming them. i don't want to get dshs involved because I have heard that they put them into a foster home. iwant them here where they will not be harmed,but loved the way they deserve to be loved.