Is There Going To Be A Problem?

#1 03-01-2003, 06:25 PM

What is the name of your state?Kansas.... A friend of mine legally adopted her nieces 2 month old baby. The boy is now 8 years old. This past summer- he was told by a family member (maternal side) that his "real mom" was coming to town and wanted to see him. The child ended up going back to Georgia with his "real mom"- because he wanted to. My friend obviously let him go- because she didn't want to deny him this right. Despite the mixed emotions (etc) she knew in her heart she was doing the right thing. She talks to him frequently and things seemed to be going ok. However, recently when she talks to the child and her niece- the niece starts arguments and tells her to "come get him". Then- next breath- all is well. The child has expressed wanting to come home- then not and alot of bad signals are flying. My friend is going to get her Legal Adoption Papers, fly to Georgia to get the boy and very much needs some advice on how to go about this legally. She wants no problems. FYI: When the boy left- there were no "agreements (etc)" signed. It was a good faith situation. Any suggestions will be deeply appreciated!!

enjay · #2 03-01-2003, 06:31 PM

Legally the child belongs to your friend. The birth mother has no rights here.

That said, why would anyone allow their 8 year old to decide to live with someone else? I fear for that child's emotional well being and I wonder why your friend so readily gave up her child after 8 years. That was not doing the right thing.

kat1963 · #3 03-01-2003, 07:05 PM

I agree with enjay. And as Boxcarbill says often "this doesn't pass the smell test".

What else was up?

KAT

nailtech · #4 03-01-2003, 11:57 PM

am I the only one seeing Kidnapping charges here?... the so called "Real mom" is not the mom any longer if the children have been adopted legally... the real mom "adopted mom" has every right to go pick up her children and take them home......

#5 03-02-2003, 01:23 AM

Take the adoption papers, get on a plane, go to Georgia, go to the state police post nearest where she is, have them go with you and remove the child from the home. This environment is not safe in many ways for this child. something similar almost happened to my fiancee when he was little. His sister was given court ordered guardianship of him. His real mother tried to get him to cross state lines by himself, when he was growing up, his sister and her husband had a hard time handling him during this time. So they stop letting her talk to him until she quit. Kidnapping is kidnapping regardless if your the biological parent or not. If you don't have custody it is kidnapping.