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unwed fatherscalifornia. I recently got my girlfriend pregnant. I am financially stable in a career job with great benefits. She is in debt, no college degree, and holds a part time dead end job. Do I have any rights as the father to gain custody of this child? |
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| Unless she is proven unfit, basically unwed fathers are SOL for getting physical custody of their child, and to ask for joint physical and legal custody, and a restriction on move-aways. Get an attorney and fight to be INVOLVED with all aspects of your child's life as soon as possible- doctor's appointments, daycare decisions, regular time of your own, away from mom, with your child. Be able to show you are capable of parenting a newborn (yes, I know they don't make moms prove anything first). Even consider parenting classes- you'll look good in court asking for your own visitaion schedule if you've already taken parenting clases and have a safe crib, etc set up for baby time at your place.
__________________ Adoptive parents ARE "real" parents. Sharing genes is not what makes you a "parent"! |
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| Yup. I always say that the single MOST important decision you will ever make for your child is who you choose as their other parent. The ONLY time you get to "choose" the other parent for your child is BEFORE conception. If you want your future child to have an industrious, financially responsible parent who takes for granted that they have a responsibility to be self-sufficient and to put their child s needs first, then THAT should be the kind of partner you limit yourself to dallying with!
__________________ Adoptive parents ARE "real" parents. Sharing genes is not what makes you a "parent"! |
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start reading...Quote:
OP~ start reading and learn EVERYTHING you can about Ca custody laws it is much easier than some might think for a dad to gain custody [url]http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/calawquery?codesection=fam&codebody=&hits=All[/url] start around 3020 [url]http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/[/url] good luck to all...you...mom...and mostly baby |
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you have no rights as of right nowQuote:
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__________________ Children aren't coloring books. You don't get to fill them in with your favorite colors. The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini ********* R.I.P. Penny. 8/12/97 - 11/12/09 She was a good hound, and a good friend. She will be missed. ********* |
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__________________ Adoptive parents ARE "real" parents. Sharing genes is not what makes you a "parent"! |
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__________________ Adoptive parents ARE "real" parents. Sharing genes is not what makes you a "parent"! |
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child support?I could give a damn about child support. The only real support this child is going to need is a parent who is intelligent enough to give the kid the right tools so he/she can be successfull in life. How is a single mom with no pot to piss in going to give a child something she does not possess. I want to be greatly involved in my child's life I just do not want the mother. But it seems if I do not want the mother I can't have my child because she will move out of state to live in her parents house because that is all she has. |
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You don't have to live with or marry the mother. You DO have to deal with her for the next couple of decades.
__________________ "Judges want people to be reasonable. Where one parent won't be reasonable, judges still want the other parent to remain reasonable." (Ford) |
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You can be in your kid's life without banging mommy ever again, you know. |
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