unwritten agreements

I live in maine. My ex-boyfriend has totally turned our 14yr.old son againstme and is pushing in court for child support, after we agreed that our son could spend half of his time with me and half with his Dad. My son now all of a sudden does not want to spend anytime with me unless I buy him things or take him here or there. I feel he is just using me. This may sound horrible coming from a mother but is it possible for me to give my ex full parental rights and responsibilities? I know he and his wife just want my son with them so they can receive child support. Please help!!!!

[Grace_Adler]

Sure, you can request to have you parental rights be terminated. If the other parent agrees, they may be granted. If they don't, you'll have to show why it would be in the child's best interest for that to happen. You will still be obligated to pay support, unless your ex agrees to drop that too or unless the step parent is willing to adopt. Otherwise, you will have to show why not paying support is in the best interest of your child which is not easy to do. I suspect 99% of the time, you still have to pay.

All of this has to be court ordered in order for it to be legal.

[kat1963]

Grace is right. Do yourself a favor search the internet for Parental Alienation Syndrome. It's heavy duty reading, keep a tissue handy and know that you aren't alone. There have been civil & family court lawsuits about this recently too.
Wishing you the best.
KAT