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[need to leave]

What is the name of your state?North Carolina
I am wanting to leave my husband of four years. I am from MD, but about a year and a half ago we moved to NC. I have threatened to leave two times, but his family always steps in and makes me feel guilty, so, I stay. We have a three year old and a five month old together. I am not happy in the marriage. I had a great job in MD, making more money than him, our daughter at the time was taken care of by my family and we owned our own home, but, we did not get along. We have tried marriage counceling but he chose to end that and we moved. Now, I am not working, I stay at home all the time, he has become very controling and I want to go home. I have already spoken to my previous employer and she has guranteed me a salary,and my family will also give me any support I need. I need to know if I have rights to pick up the kids and leave without him saying that I kidnapped them because I would be taking them over the state line and what my rights are to child support. Thanks for listening!!

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by need to leave

What is the name of your state?North Carolina
I am wanting to leave my husband of four years. I am from MD, but about a year and a half ago we moved to NC. I have threatened to leave two times, but his family always steps in and makes me feel guilty, so, I stay. We have a three year old and a five month old together. I am not happy in the marriage. I had a great job in MD, making more money than him, our daughter at the time was taken care of by my family and we owned our own home, but, we did not get along. We have tried marriage counceling but he chose to end that and we moved. Now, I am not working, I stay at home all the time, he has become very controling and I want to go home. I have already spoken to my previous employer and she has guranteed me a salary,and my family will also give me any support I need. I need to know if I have rights to pick up the kids and leave without him saying that I kidnapped them because I would be taking them over the state line and what my rights are to child support. Thanks for listening!!

You can leave with the kids, and it would not be kidnapping. However, your husband could also file for custody in NC and ask the judge to force you to return the children to NC. If the judge does, and you disobey the order, THEN it would be kidnapping.

The bottom line is that in the end, you are going to need either your husband's approval or the court's approval to move your children back to Maryland.

I hope that other people reading this realize what a BAD idea it is to agree to move away with your spouse when your marriage is already rocky. If I had a dollar for every person I have seen in your shoes....I would be a wealthy woman.

[want2leave]

Originally Posted by need to leave

What is the name of your state?North Carolina
I am wanting to leave my husband of four years. I am from MD, but about a year and a half ago we moved to NC. I have threatened to leave two times, but his family always steps in and makes me feel guilty, so, I stay. We have a three year old and a five month old together. I am not happy in the marriage. I had a great job in MD, making more money than him, our daughter at the time was taken care of by my family and we owned our own home, but, we did not get along. We have tried marriage counceling but he chose to end that and we moved. Now, I am not working, I stay at home all the time, he has become very controling and I want to go home. I have already spoken to my previous employer and she has guranteed me a salary,and my family will also give me any support I need. I need to know if I have rights to pick up the kids and leave without him saying that I kidnapped them because I would be taking them over the state line and what my rights are to child support. Thanks for listening!!

Yeah I'm in the exact situation myself. I left my home state of Va to move to my husband's home state of AR, two years ago. His family has also intervened and I've stayed. We were on very rocky grounds when we came here, in hopes to make things work, but they have not gotten better. I also want to leave, with my son, back to VA but my husband will not allow my son to leave the state. He also does not want to divorce. Now I feel more trapped than ever....

[calimother]

Originally Posted by want2leave

Yeah I'm in the exact situation myself. I left my home state of Va to move to my husband's home state of AR, two years ago. His family has also intervened and I've stayed. We were on very rocky grounds when we came here, in hopes to make things work, but they have not gotten better. I also want to leave, with my son, back to VA but my husband will not allow my son to leave the state. He also does not want to divorce. Now I feel more trapped than ever....

Well I just joined this forum today so Im new, but I also am is the same situation and I need advice on what I can do legally. Living in California now I have been split up with my ex (daughters father) for 1.5 years now, I have been stuggling here for that long on my own with no family at all here. Currentlly we have only a mediation mutal plan for visitation which right now is 50/50. My company that I work for has gone through a re-oganization and alot of people have lost their jobs and Mine will end on Sept 30th. I dont know what I can do because I want to move to Arizona where I have family support and I can live without struggling finacially. I also feel so trapped here and Its hard to deal with alone!