what can I do????

I live in Kentucky, Our son and his wife were divorced almost a year ago, they live in Texas. They have joint custody of our 3 grandchildren, both parents are into themselfs and not caring for their children.

If negelect and abuse is going on how do I get help for my grandchildren without going to children and family services?? I have no idea where to start, besides getting a lawyer.

If your grandchildren are truely being abused/neglected, then you need to contact Social Services whether you want to or not. If its simply a case of you dont agree how they are raising them, you have nothing. They are the parents, not you.

[JETX]

RE is correct.

"both parents are into themselfs and not caring for their children."
*** Please describe how the children are not being properly cared for.

"If negelect and abuse is going on how do I get help for my grandchildren"
*** Exactly what type of "neglect and abuse" are you alleging??

I really do know that I am not the parent and they do not belong to me. I just worry day and night.
Yes I do not agree to how they are being raised.

Both parents have left them alone in the house, apartment and car. 9--7--4 years old.
Dropping the boys off on a street corner, alone to wait for school bus and leaving.
Living in a dirty, dirty house, 3 dogs. 2 cats.
Both parents allowing kids to wear shoes, that are two small, with holes.
Mother letting boys run all over apartment complex, without knowing where they are.
We buy all their clothes, shoes and coats.
We buy all their Christmas
Father taking many script drugs, for a very long time affect him, will not do anything about it.
Father not paying bills and house payment, is not doing anything about it. (disabled)
Mother knocked father with car, in front of the kids and left. She had charges filed against her.
I could go on and on.

Very afraid of Children and Family Services, do not want my grandchildren put in foster homes.

Contact social services. Find out what you can do to make sure you are considered for temp custody if it comes to that. Make sure you tell them everything you have told us, the arrests, being left home alone, you buy all their essentials, etc.


I may be wrong, and i am DEFINITE that I will be corrected if so, but I would think Social Services would look to family members first rather than foster homes.

but you HAVE to call. You will never forgive yourself if something happens to one of these children. Not that it would be directly your fault, but you can do something to prevent it now.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

[stealth2]

The big problem is being out of state - Social Services may not place the children out of state. But if they are really being neglected - SS may be your best bet.