What Can I Do?

[Middle21]

What is the name of your state? New Hampshire


I am still concidered a minor because I am 17 but I have a child now and I don't want to live with me mother any more. Do I have to emancipate myself from her or is there a loop whole because of my child? I have heard different stories of how I am concidered an adult because of the child and other stories that say I am not. Could someone please help me out?

[Wolflmg]

Originally Posted by Middle21

What is the name of your state? New Hampshire


I am still concidered a minor because I am 17 but I have a child now and I don't want to live with me mother any more. Do I have to emancipate myself from her or is there a loop whole because of my child? I have heard different stories of how I am concidered an adult because of the child and other stories that say I am not. Could someone please help me out?

As far as I know sense your still a minor your not concidered an adult until your 18th brithday. As far as getting emancipated, you would have to be able to support yourself 100%

But it's a long and hard process and by the time it's finished you would probably already be 18. But if you want to go through it, here's what has to be done.

Must support self 100%
Pay for rent
pay for food, clothes, all your babies needs
pay for medical and car insurance, as well as your childs medical insurance (hopefully the father of the child is pay child support)
have a full time job
parents concent
must provide good reason for court to grant your request
finishing highschool and going to college probably would follow
Basicly anything your mother does for you now, you would have to do all on your own.

[stealth2]

Originally Posted by Middle21

What is the name of your state? New Hampshire


I am still concidered a minor because I am 17 but I have a child now and I don't want to live with me mother any more. Do I have to emancipate myself from her or is there a loop whole because of my child? I have heard different stories of how I am concidered an adult because of the child and other stories that say I am not. Could someone please help me out?

No, getting knocked up and popping out a kid does not emancipate you. You are still a minor, according to the law.

[Middle21]

I know emancipation takes a while and probably will turn 18 before I can even appear in court, but I could live at my boyfriend's house, where we are support more than 100%. Everything here is taken care of, but when I am at my mother's house, where my younger sister lives, I have to order out dinner every night because there is nothing in the house. She doesn't go food shopping, she is hardly ever home, she spends more money on her boyfriend then her own children, and leaves the place a mess when she is home. Is there any way I can move out of there without her consent, without going to court?

[stealth2]

No. Then you are a runaway. The point of emancipation is that you can support YOURSELF 100%. Not by living with your boyfriend's parents. But ALONE where YOU pay for EVERYTHING. BY YOURSELF. That's called being an adult and SUPPORTING YOURSELF. DO you see a theme here? YOURSELF! NOT with help. NOT being put up by a boyfriend or his parents. NOT being supported by the state.

What being EMANCIPATED means is that you are mature enough to take care of yourself 100%. YOU can pay for your OWN place. YOU can pay for your OWN food. YOU can pay for your OWN transportation. YOU can pay for your OWN medical care. Are you starting to understand? Your boyfriend and his parents are not part of the emancipation picture. If you want to be emancipated - YOU need to be responsible for your own self. Without help. From anyone. That's how it works when you're an adult.

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by Middle21

Is there any way I can move out of there without her consent, without going to court?

Not until you are 18.

no you cant move out without her consent, she can report you as a runaway, and you could possibly have your child taken away from you. you are under your mom's control untill you are 18.theres nothing you can do, im sorry

[Middle21]

Do you NOT UNDERSTAND that is what I am saying? Yes, I would live with my boyfriend, but it wouldn't be being put up by him or his parents. I'm saying I would be able to do it myself. Maybe I didn't clearify enough or you just don't have any common sense.

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by Middle21

Do you NOT UNDERSTAND that is what I am saying? Yes, I would live with my boyfriend, but it wouldn't be being put up by him or his parents. I'm saying I would be able to do it myself. Maybe I didn't clearify enough or you just don't have any common sense.

No, apparently you don't have common sense. You are a teen mother. That in itself speaks volumes. I will guess that your BF is over 18. If you moved in with him without the consent of your parents then he could be arrested for harboring a runaway. Is that what you want?

[stealth2]

Originally Posted by Middle21

Do you NOT UNDERSTAND that is what I am saying? Yes, I would live with my boyfriend, but it wouldn't be being put up by him or his parents. I'm saying I would be able to do it myself. Maybe I didn't clearify enough or you just don't have any common sense.

Or perhaps you're not understanding what you would have to prove to a court. Because that's who would be emancipating you. You would need to show that you can afford to live on your own and provide all of the above for yourself. Without your b/f's family helping you. Do you make enough to rent an apartment? Pay for medical insurance? Pay for transportation? Pay for food? Pay for clothes? Pay for utilities on that apartment that you can afford to rent on your own? Apart from that, being a teen Mom doesn't show a great deal of maturity - which is another thing a judge is going to be looking for.

[Middle21]

Originally Posted by Rushia

No, apparently you don't have common sense. You are a teen mother. That in itself speaks volumes. I will guess that your BF is over 18. If you moved in with him without the consent of your parents then he could be arrested for harboring a runaway. Is that what you want?

Obviously none of you have any common sense besides wolflmg. Did any of you see anywhere in any of my post that I was going to run away? No, I don't think you did. Any besides, who's to say being a teen mother is a bad thing? Just because you have different preferences, that doesn't make me any less of a person or a mother. My child is more than well cared for, happy, and all around loved. Whether or not you like the idea of a teen getting pregnant, your going to have to deal with it. Every day another teenager is having a child somewhere within your local area. It's not like I'm the first to do it. So get over it already.

[stealth2]

And this is exactly why a judge will not emancipate you.

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by Middle21

Obviously none of you have any common sense besides wolflmg. Did any of you see anywhere in any of my post that I was going to run away? No, I don't think you did. Any besides, who's to say being a teen mother is a bad thing? Just because you have different preferences, that doesn't make me any less of a person or a mother. My child is more than well cared for, happy, and all around loved. Whether or not you like the idea of a teen getting pregnant, your going to have to deal with it. Every day another teenager is having a child somewhere within your local area. It's not like I'm the first to do it. So get over it already.

If you left without your mother's consent then yes, you are considered a runaway. Secondly, a judge is going to see that obviously you don't have common sense and/or can't make good decisions considering you are a teen mother. I'm looking at the legal aspect. However, if you really do want my personal opinion... Yes, your a teen mother and in today's society there is NO excuse. They hand out condoms in middle school for God's sake. With all the diseases that run rampant!!!!! If you were MY daughter, right now you would be confined to the house until you were 18.

[Middle21]

Goodness, this is what it has come to. I just asked a simple question. I know what it takes to become emancipated. I just wanted to know what the truth was on whether or not I was concidered an adult because I had a child. You all needed to throw in your opinions on whether or not you think I am mature based on what you think you have recognized about me from my replies when in reality, you know nothing about my personal being or my life. So just give up. All you had to say was "No, what you heard was incorrect. You would need to emancipate yourself." Goodness, you people think you're so great because you think you know everthing there is to know. Well I only ask you one more thing. Will you please just get over yourselves? All you have to do is give a yes or no answer. That's it, no if's, and's, or but's about it. Why can't you just do that instead of making a big deal about it? On another note, no one asked your opinion on what you thought of my being a mother at my age. It does not concern you in any way except for the sole being of my one and only question.

[Middle21]

Originally Posted by bleulaluna

Well sweety, then pardon us. I thought that you came here to educate yourself. Good luck to you and your child, your baby's definitely going to need it.

I came here for the sole purpose of this question. I didn't realize I would be harassed by a bunch of stuck up asses just because of how I live my life. Oh, and for your information, my child IS HEALTHY, HAPPY, AND LOVED. I myself am healthy as well, I am heading to college next year, graduated at the TOP of my class, and will provide for my child as I see needed. My child will always come first in my life, whether you ignorant people think I am capable or not.