I would suggest you also use the links above and speak to a Divorce atty NOW to learn if there is any advantage to being the one to file first in your home state & Include asking about 50 /50 custody since she is the one who removed them from the marital residence, The atty can advise you of any possible advantages re being the first one to file for Divorce. Also go to a bank and get a new acct where you are the only one listed on it. If the account she drained was joint not much you can do about her draining it but you are free to prevent her from doing it again . Keep a good eye on any other accts that are joint like major credit cards.