malicious intent

[Miaginger]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? COLORADO I am deeply troubled over a couple of events that recently happened to me. I work in the medical field as clerical staff. For several years I was involved with one of the doctors that I work for. He is contracted to work in the same location so is not an employee of the same company. We recently broke up. We are still friends. At one point he expressed that he thought that I would commit suicide or become promiscuous after the breakup and was surprised I didn't. That was painful. Weeks later I suffered a personal tragedy so great that I became severly depressed. I called him and he came to check on me because I was having destructive thoughts. He took me to a pharmacy to get some sleep meds. I told him that I had plenty of herbal aids at my home and we could go back to my home for them. He decided to write a script for Ambien. Before he did I asked that we got an OTC med. He said no. In the store he decided to take control of the medicine. He bought cigaretts and we went to his home. He gave me on pill but I still couldn't calm down so about 5to 10 minutes later he gave me another to take. I was so aggitated. I had already made small cuts on my hand because of the extreme anguish I was in. He made me lie on his sofa to try to sleep. I eventually did around 10:30pm. He woke me up early the next morning aroud 6 to tell me to bathe and then gave me two more tablets. I was thirsty but he wouldn't let me drink until I swallowed the two together.
I did as directed. He is a great doctor and I trusted him professionally besides I was a nervous mess and couldn't pull myself together. He commented that I was bleeding. Somewhere along the way my chest, abdomen, neck and hands were cut more and blood was all over my shirt. I remember feeling very dizzy and foggy.The nextime I woke up an hour or two later, my daughter was over. She thought I was a danger to myself and called 911. I was taken to a hospital by ambulance. Later realeased. He picked us up from the hospital and gave me the last pill. He had prescribed five 10mg tabs of Ambien and had given me four of them within about 9 hours. Later I found out from "Ask A Nurse" line at a local hospital that no doctor would ever give that much of this medicine in such a short period. Days after the event I began to suffer sharp flank pains. He refuses to discuss the medicine issue. I just got a copy of the drug info sheet from the pharmacy and saw the complications. I wonder still was he trying to help me hurt myself in the worse way. What do you think? I still cry when I look at the scars on my body.

[ecmst12]

This is potentially a criminal assault situation, not malpractice. I would stay far, far away from this guy.

[Miaginger]

I shake at work when he's there. He has been written up and disciplined by the hospital for his temper issue. As a specialist he's supremely talented. It make me ill when I think of what I know he did and I have physical evidence. I appreciate your advice. Infact, my
delima is that I struggle daily between reporting him and possibly suffer horrible consequences versus what I am doing now....suffering emotional pain from the pressure on not reporting him and possibly risking another woman's life. Today he said out loud in front of witnesses.."The only thing better that hurting old people is hurting women". I knew how very true that is. I tried to keep my composure as he laughed it off like a joke. I want him to be exposed for his lies but I fear his revenge too. My slee is disturbed and I am perplexed. If I do involve the authorities what type of lawyer could take such a case?

[barry1817]

Originally Posted by Miaginger

I shake at work when he's there. He has been written up and disciplined by the hospital for his temper issue. As a specialist he's supremely talented. It make me ill when I think of what I know he did and I have physical evidence. I appreciate your advice. Infact, my
delima is that I struggle daily between reporting him and possibly suffer horrible consequences versus what I am doing now....suffering emotional pain from the pressure on not reporting him and possibly risking another woman's life. Today he said out loud in front of witnesses.."The only thing better that hurting old people is hurting women". I knew how very true that is. I tried to keep my composure as he laughed it off like a joke. I want him to be exposed for his lies but I fear his revenge too. My slee is disturbed and I am perplexed. If I do involve the authorities what type of lawyer could take such a case?

I guess it might be wise to start documenting such comments and action at work to protect yourself should you be looking to file a sexual harassment case down the line.

Sometimes people can be victims or not victims, and changing from one mode to another often takes a support group, which might be worth looking into.

I would think that his comments and action should also me mentioned to human resources and let them be aware of the problems that he actions could cause them, should somebody wish to agressively and actively pursue action against this type of behavior

[ecmst12]

The first person you should talk to is a therapist specializing in battered women.

[cyjeff]

Actually, no.

The first call you should make is to the police.

[lealea1005]

OP, do you have a previous history of cutting or doing harm to yourself? I'm just trying to figure out why he was concerned that you would harm yourself at the time he was breaking off your relationship.

If you do have a history of psych issues previous to this event, could you tell us what they were? That information could be helpful.

[ecmst12]

Originally Posted by cyjeff

Actually, no.

The first call you should make is to the police.

Actually, NO, I meant what I said. Reporting an abuser is emotionally difficult and potentially dangerous. OP does not sound anywhere near strong enough to go to the police without a support system and advocate backing her up. OP needs to tend to her own mental health FIRST. Once she feels safe and prepared to face her abuser in court if necessary, then she can take the next step.