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Originally Posted by debannwilson  What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ny
my mom recently died of cancer. she was diagnosed with lung, liver and bone cancer. she was diagnosed in july 2008 and died sept 29, 2008. she had a primary care dr, a cardiologist, and a pulmonary dr. although she lost a lot of weight over the last couple of years and complained of pain; she was never diagnosed until 2 1/2 monts before she died. the last month she suffered brain cancer and was \"out\" of it most of the time. she never got to say goodbye to her family and never met her great-grandson who was born when she was diagnosed. she suffered from great pain; both physically and emotionally. needless to say so did we, her children. we are angry and hurt that she was not diagnosed although she had many signs of cancer. losing weight, breathing problems, and pains all over her body (specifically her ribs and shoulder which showed large tumors as well as a large tumor in her stomach). we believe the doctors should be stopped before they kill other people by giving poor medical care. do we have a case? mom lived in fl, i live in nyc. |
Unfortunately, that is the way cancer often presents and progresses.
You have provided no information that specifically indicates having cancer. All of the symptoms you listed can be due to other things. If your mother was under the care of a physician, and it seems she was under the care of at least two, chances are that she appropriately responded to treatment up to whatever event occurred that led to further diagnostic testing, which diagnosed cancer.
At the time of her diagnosis, the cancer was beyond treatment.
Have you thought about what her life would have been like if she had undergone treatment for cancer of that many organs? Her life would have been a living hell of pain and suffering; and, there is no reason to believe that she would have lived to see any of her great-grandchildren or even as long as she did.
She was an elderly person with health problems. I doubt she was a candidate for aggressive treatment of cancer, not even if it had been diagnosed two or three years ago.
It seems to me that the good Lord gave her the last years of her life to live to her fullest without knowing she was dying of cancer and He further blessed her by taking her consciousness during her times of great suffering. She must have been a wonderful person, heart and soul.
I'm sure you miss her and I'm sure you are angry. It's called the grief process and you and your family must go through it so that you can live emotionally healthy lives.
Unless you have much more reason to suspect that her care was below the minimum standard, let go of this. Honor her in other ways.
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