Blue Meanie

I did... and hope she realizes that no "real" attorney would tell her how to go about changing her "friend's" identity to avoid child support. She seems to think he's being harassed with excessive court orders. Unfortunately, his responsibility won't magically go away with an identity change. Maybe (benefit of the doubt) she is grasping at straws trying to "help" him. But the method she's seeking would actually HURT him. Sooner or later, HE will need to face the problem. She can always take off if it's too much for her to handle.

But why is it necessary to be harsh? Actually, harsh isn't the right word because 'harsh' can still be said in a professional manner. 'Mean' is the word that is more fitting and there simply is no excuse for it.

This site boasts that it's as close to what you'll get in a real court room as you can find in a free legal forum. Really? Do you think I would keep my attorney on retainer for one second longer than I had to if they spoke to me in a manner that I see here routinely?

I read through what's posted here and try to filter through the BS and hormones to find the value in the message. Sometimes, there simply isn't value at all in the Seniors' responses. None whatsoever. Other times - yes, I understand the point. It's just unfortunate that some people are so hell-bent on lashing out at people that don't understand the laws.

The rules on this site are set up so that if you're a newbie - better buck up and put up with the BS until you can prove you've got 'two big ones' between your legs. Insults thrown by Seniors are ALWAYS fair but standing up for your own honor and challenging them means you can be deleted or banned. It's like trying to win entry to the neighborhood tree house you didn't help build. Good luck!

It's so one-sided. Is that realistic of a court room? (oops... I really shouldn't ask that question.)

Honestly, regardless of my own custody situation or anyone else's I've ever seen posted here, Family Court is NOT necessarily about protecting the children. It's about protecting a clique of lawyers and judges with their own agenda. You cannot tell me that your chances of getting a fair hearing aren't boosted if you are fortunate enough to afford and use an attorney who is well known and respected by (and possibly good friends with) the judge overseeing your case.

Sorry - the options were to delete or report. I apologize if my deletion put you on report; that was not my intent.

With respect to the Seniors reading before blasting, that is not always true. I have seen them jump all over people after missing details that had a strong bearing on the poster's position. Many do not like to be corrected and will minimize the fact that they were not careful in taking all information into account before responding. At least I'm willing to acknowledge that I did not have time to read the entire thread earlier and missed some details.

Regardless of any of this... my point in messaging the poster was to offer alternative sites to her. She may get the same answers, but without the *smack* she got here.

This may be the fastest site to receive feedback, but it is not the only free advice site out there. It sure seems to be teaming with people who have a lot of anger to throw out at people who are at a time where they need more patience. Most people who come here for the first time are at their wits end with grief, confusion and just generally - fear of the unknown.

Supposedly, Senior contributors are either professional or laymen who have learned through their own experience. If the latter is true, then surely... those contributors can recall their initial "education" and relate to fear and ignorance Newbies have and show more compassion; even when delivering the truth that is not what the poster wants to hear.

Actually... no, I hadn't read all of her posts (until just now.) I by NO MEANS would suggest to her that she would find legal advice that would direct her how to commit fraud. I see in the thread that she received a few posts of advice that were straight and without nastiness (that is... her "friend" needs to show evidence to convince the court that the support assessed is excessive.) Financial circumstances change for CP's and NCP's but that doesn't mean their responsibility to their child can be tossed to the side.

The only "help" I was going to offer her were some alternative sites to get a fuller perspective of what reality is for her "friend."

What IS it with you people? Mean, nasty, uptight, Get-off on "putting people in their place"? Afraid that someone else may have a different take on the situation? Just because she asked if there was a way out, doesn't translate to an ILLEGAL way out. Jeez... get a grip!

Piss off Joe. You will be gone from the forum by Monday...Just like you were banned at TheLaw...

stop hijacking threads

talk about priceless!!!

Charlotte the rat package was hilarious to look at. I busted up so hard, I couldn't breathe. I wish I could have see Blue's expression when she got it.

Okay. But here's a cuter one, with no visible little rat package.