Ohiogal

You always need to be right and therefore before you even give me a chance to respond to your last post, you lock my thread... Not the first time you have done that!!! You have also kicked me off the site for two weeks for calling you a name, not even a bad word, but you call people names all the time!!! I am going to find someone to report your abuse of power to.

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Div in NJ Live in NC
Ok I've had this subject visited before. Ohiogal and a few others have given answers I'm not getting from local attorneys. Many regarding UCCJEA. I need this explained?

I have custody of my children, legally I didn't run.
The Mom hasn't contacted us in 3.5-4 years.
Mom hasn't paid voluntary CS in nearly 6 years.
We have been in NC 5 .5 years now.

As I stated in past post I have interviewed lawyers in my area, I interview pretty well. I ask how many cases they handled in this court, how many adoptions, abandonment etc.
I have settled on one and have to bring back past court orders on Monday afternoon. Not that I don't understand or trust them but I keep reading about this UCCJE from many here.

I asked all three the questions regarding UCCJEA and they all said sort of the same thing. There was nothing done to hide or do anything illegal, and we follow the letter of the law to do this. That's not their exact words but what I understood.

The reason I don't want to get this done in NJ is simple. I can't get there for court proceeding, every court date in the past including my divorce the Ex. has canceled every time they let her, some two or three times. I can't do it. Also being honest the price is at least 3-4 times more.

Why do people on this form say different then the locals ? I don't want to spend thousands then have this overturned and spend thousands more. (I don't know why the Ex. would bother now and not in the past,But.) This is why it's taken so long to make this decision.

Regarding your post on: Visitations of Older Children

Well first off, I understand that in the courts eyes I am nothing and do not have a say legally. However, I do have an opinion and can state my opinion regarding this situation, especially when it affects my darling husband. I am not going to BUTT out of this situation when I see my husband hurting. We are a family unit and any decision that is made affects ALL of us. Maybe I should be more clear and you should stop jumping to conculsions. I NEVER talk to the ex-wife or the children about decisions that are being made. My husband takes care of communicating to his ex-wife and his children. However, he does ask my opinion on the situation and I try to be completely honest and non-biased. I am entitled to my opinion, and I believe that he is being walked all over. He is a strong man, but he follows his heart and always puts his girls wants before his own.

And to anwer your question, the reason he didn't make the girls stay during the whole time he was entitled to during the summer is because they missed their mother and friends. He has a soft heart when it comes to his baby girls he put their wants before his own even though he was entitled to it. I can't imagine how he must really feel and feeling so torn between what is legally his right versus what his children want. Those kids are wonderful little ladies and they love their daddy with all their heart and sole. My husband believes that his wife is manipulating them and so that is why we are at the point we are now (AND YES, I AM SAYING WE!!!!!).

I was looking for advice on if anyone has ever been through this before. I was not looking to be criticized because I am a concerned and loving wife and step-mother.

Hi, I was the one who posted "My wife has a no contact order on me...help" I'm sorry for making that generalization of legal aide attorneys. It was rude and uncalled for. I appologize. I posted some new details if you would like to check them out.

my apologies for being rude and calling you ****y. you're obviously a senior member for a reason. i do value the advice i have gotten from this site and it was just emotions doing the typing. my apologies

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You're killing me here!!!!

Okay, My bad.

I am so misunderstanding the forum pages.

I thought that I was being clear (as mud evidently) when I would make statements using the words, "may", "could", or even stating "in my opinion".

My legal experience has shown me that just because it is the particular court rules, or there is supporting case law - it is not an automatic "slam dunk" - but, again, that is based on my limited legal experience and research in the state of Illinois and Missouri.

I will cease with the advice.

Hey,

It might be a good idea to have the same sticky note that is in Custody and Visitation, in Child Support.

I only went to the one section last night - and I did not see a sticky note, so I did not know the rules.

Had I known, I "might" not have gotten as free with my advice over the past view hours.

This could save someother poor "sap" in the future.

Also, is there a way to have a delay in the posts appearing on this site? Some sites have this. This allows them to review the posts of new members long enough until the feel that they have a firm understanding of the posting rules.

Just a thought.


Oh, my response on the Injured Spouse issue was not related to the CS, but to his ex's welfare fraud while they were married, that did not come to light until they were divorce.

That is what puts him in the injured spouse catagory - not the owing of CS.


Okay, I think I have removed all of the offending reponses - you might want to delete your responses, that refer to my deleted response.

Sorry, if I could I would do it for you.

Thanks for all your help, you rock!

Excuse me, but after reading your replies you seem to have a lot of good advice. Would please be able to offer your thoughts on my post? I would very much appreciate it!

Thank you for your input. It's appreciated