Absolutely. If your ex can walk in there and convince the Judge that anything she's asking for is warranted, then let the Judge make that decision. Just don't offer anything.

Thank you very much for the PM. That is so crazy! So it would be better to let the judge split it then for me to volunteer? I hate to read that you went through that. I would go crazy if that happened to me. We both want to split everything but I am also afraid if her getting upset with me and take me back to court down the road...
I am hoping the judge will take in consideration that I kept our daughter while she was off flying around the US not paying me anything before our divorce was final. I just want to stay primary custodial parent.

In no way am I implying that this would happen to you, but when I was awarded custody of my daughters, I told the Judge that I didn't want CS, that I wanted all expenses split 50%. My ex took care of food and her regular household bills at her place, as I did mine. Everything concerning our daughters, clothing, toys, you name it, was split 50%.

When my ex went back for modification of custody, after a year of this plan working extremely well, not only was she awarded primary, but I was then ordered to pay CS, and it's been a living hell ever since. I tried to be the nice guy as you appear to be trying to do now, and no matter how nice I was, I'm the one that not only got my feet held to the flames, but I also lost precious time that I had before with my daughters.

If you have something now in place that works and has been working well, don't fix it. It's not broken. If she wants to have the amount of CS reduced because she's the one that wants to work PT, that's not your issue. Make her prove to the Court that the reduction is necessary. Do you believe that if the tables were turned, that you would be looking at a successful outcome after filing a mod because you wanted to work PT?

You and your ex are the only one's that knows your personal situation and how it affects your daughter, and I'm sure that you will do what you feel in your heart is best for her. Just don't agree to anything. I'm not saying you should be a jerk, but you also don't have to agree.

I did not post all of this as a he-man-woman-hating issue that's been screwed. This is just my personal experience that backfired because I tried to be the nice guy.