just really quick,,, my son is my daughter, i've had fights with ohiogal before so to get a accurate oppinion i had to disguise myself. lol not that it mattered, shes always so hatefull. anyway, so my daughter has lived with my parents since birth. i became very sick when she was 6 months old and it took up 2 or 3 years. at 4 i was beggining to see the light of day again and now shes 10. how the time does fly. lol
i worry about what the best thing is for her. how did you decide? im afrade the way she is being brought up is going to make her uncontrollable when she comes of age-14-19. shes pampered and spoiled and concerned with only herself. shes not doing great in school and my mom put her in the "dumb class" doesnt look at her homework or care to notice her teacher is marking correct answers wrong. I'm sure my mom is tired, she raised 4 horrid children and now she wants a grandchild to spoil, except shes soposto be also raising that spoiled grandchild.
but at the same time how can i say i will be any better. i am my mothers child.
well all my ducks are in a row as far as stability, but i want my daughter to do things to earn the stuff she gets just by asking, or crying, or innoying. then will she rebell on me for making her life soooo hard? ( dishes are quite disturbing lol )
how did you decide, was it just that your mom had no one else? my mom loves her and i love her. my mom might get over it, but i dont like her as it is, i dont want to hate her anymore, which im sure will come about when i sue her for custody. she wants to keep my daughter till she is a horrid teenager then give her back to me so i can deal with it, and if i'm any indication of how bad teen girls can actually be, then i am well beyond screwed if i dont do something soon.
well thank you for your message. I really hope to learn from you, and your decissions, so at least i will have some insight to the benifit/mistake of leaving her or taking her.
Summerdawn, I just saw the message you'd sent. You are very welcome. It's (not so) funny how there's just tons of scriptures to address all kinds of situations in our lives. I'm just so glad we have them to give us the wisdom we lack! We have had a lot of issues with DH's ex, she's got serious boundary issues, and have had to become experts in avoiding contention and conflict when it wasn't necessary and taking it on when it was. It's never really easy, but part of it is making it look to the disturber that it IS! Good luck.
