Adultery: Didn't know

[army_guy]

Ok..... So off starts my messed up situation. I was just transfered to my new post and my "wife" stayed home in Texas to live with her "boyfriend". Well, I was trying to get the ball rolling on a divorce so I could get that part of my life over with.

I was at my new duty station for several months (no, still married, in the Army's eyes) and started to go out and see other women. I am not a typical military guy that goes out looking for a fling or anything (yes, I know, there ARE some of us out there). After several months, I met a lady that struck me as pretty quality. I took her out to dinner and we stayed up all night and into the morning talking. She was divorced (or so she said) and we were talking about those issues and whatnot.

Anyway long story short(er)-- We ended up haveing sex and a couple of weeks later. A couple days later, she tells me that she isn't divorced, but legaly seperated. By this time I am in the wrong because I have had sex with someone else while I was still married. It wasn't right at all, but it was what happened. I am pretty ticked, and try to distance myself from her. She tells me that everything is "cool" and that her husband (another soldier) is living with another woman and that he doesn't care because she isn't saying anything about what he is doing.

Now-- here's where I screw up BIG TIME. I continue to see her (yes, like an idoit), and about 2 weeks later, I give myself a wake up call when I realize that she is just using me to take her out and pay for things. I get upset with her and distance myself to where I will no longer accept her calls.

My unit gets orders to deploy and I am getting ready to leave. She bumped into me one time before I left and said that she was sorry and that she wanted us to remain friends. I was polite, but didn't agree or lead her on to anything. I am now almost done with my deployment and just remembered about her. I have had nothing come down and no one has asked. I am just trying to get advice of what to do IF something should come down and what they can do.

I know that it has been over a year now, but I don't know how long this crap can be used. I am just trying to make a bad situation, that I created with my poor judgement, right. I am wanting to be clear of any of this mess and able to now move on (now that I am PROPERLY divorced from my wife).

Can anyone advise me on:

1.) How long they have to impose any charges to this
2.) What can happen to me
3.) The fact that I didn't know she was married mean anything
4.) Would this be one of those "he said/she said" things

I am VERY ashamed of my poor judgement and actions for last year. I know that I have not brought good credit to the Army or NCO Corp. I know that me feeling this has no meaning in a court of law. What can I do to prepare if something should arise? I would like to have the upper hand, BUT do not want to bring a bad name to myself in my unit.

Thank you all for your help and time.

[badapple40]

5 years statute of limitations

I suggest staying away from her.

I doubt a court martial would be convened unless you are an idiot and confess to it. These things are VERY hard to prove. There is a possible defense under Lawrence v. Texas and U.S. v. Marcum that may bar charges all together in these circumstances.

I further suggest that you complete your divorce with your wife, which will also tend to result in them not bringing charges.

Did I mention not mentioning the incident to ANYONE?

[rmet4nzkx]

Also don't use your military email or computer to contact or discuss, remember it is gov property.

Like the other post stated, very hard to prove. as long as she denies it and you deny it, the only way to prove it, unless there was photos or witnesses, in which im assuming there was not by what you wrote.stick to your story, did not do anything if it ever comes out.