Anybody who can help?!?!

[Redhd122677]

What is the name of your state? NC

Ok I am going to try and make a really long story short. My husband is in the Army, and has been stationed here in NC for 7 years, which is not at all uncommon for this town, people tend to stay here a while. A few months ago a superior in my husbands unit did something extremely vindictive, calling his branch manager and telling him my husband "wanted" a transfer. Which was completely untrue, but it was this persons way of ridding herself of him, which she stated on many occasions she did not like, not because he was a bad solider but because the soliders below wanted to follow my husband and not her. (long story) In thinking that telling people she lied would help us out, it didn't, my husband is still slotted to leave. I am enrolled in EFMP and they stated they do not have the medical facilities in the new post for me, so I cannot go and they are going to send him alone for 2 years. Now please I know that I married the military and I know that this is what they do, but I need to be with my husband now, we are going through some serious issues (emotional, financial) that need to be handled and handled together. He has put in for a 30 day deferment and it was denied, and a request for a compassionate reassignment and it was denied also. I went to talk to the First Sarge. and tried to reason with him, but to no avail. Is there anything or anyone that can help me in this situation. Who should I talk to? I feel completely helpless.

[rmet4nzkx]

Where is this next post?

[Redhd122677]

Germany, Panzer Kaserne

[fozzy2]

If your request for compassionate action has been denied, there may not be much you can do except perhaps re-submit it with more/better documentation of the problem.

Since PCS orders are issued at a higher level, your local command may not be able to do much in any case. Has your husband discussed the issue with his detailer/assigner (or whatever the Army calls them these days)? If your membership in the EFM program is properly documented, then Washington must have been faced with a "needs of the army" situation in assigning him to a post you couldn't go to. In that case, the orders are probably going to stick.

[stuckinlamad]

Ok I am a navy wife my husband is stationed in Italy. Here are a few things I know that you can use to help you. 1st and most importantly there is a program where a service member cannot be seperated that long if it will cause financial hardship on the family. Basically if you can't afford to support 2 families, 1 in the states and your hubby overseas, then you can apply to get the orders changed though it isn't always approved. Secondly, being in the EFMP doesn't automatically exempt you from going overseas. Some bases are EFMP exempt but not all. I don't know the rules for the Army but Navy rules are if you have a family member who is already in the EFMP then you are restricted from taking all non EFMP bases. Go to his career counsilor. Good Luck

[DRTDEVL]

7 years is 7 years.

It's time for him to move on...

Maybe have him request assignment to Korea instead? Only a 12 month separation then...

Quit whining, suck it up, and drive on! This is what we do. He can't serve an entire career in one location.