Divorce and BAH help.

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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan

I live in Michigan, and my (soon to be ex) husband is stationed in Hawaii. I'm currently 5 1/2 months pregnant, and I have been back from Hawaii for almost 4 months now. I have been trying to get a hold of his command because before I left he refused to take me to the air port unless I handed over both my ID card and my Tricare Insurance card to him. So I did, fearing that he would hurt me if I didn't. He is violent and emotionally abusive (I know it's hard to prove emotional abuse expecially 4 months after the fact, but I was suicidal by the time I returned to my family in michigan.) Anyways, I'm supposed to be getting the BAH that is mine according to his command, but I have not been able to get a hold of his command, I have been trying for months now. I need to know what to do next. Also, I need to know how long he could delay the custody arrangements because he isn't aware when he gets the divorce papers, that I'm fighting him for full custody now rather than later. Its a very complicated, and probably and extremely unique situation. I don't know much about the military or about divorces. I'm only 20 years old. Also, is there any way that he can force me to name my child something? He threw a fit over the weekend when he talked to me (for the first time in over a month), because I'd already picked out names for the baby. He hasn't asked me anything about my pregnancy or the child except once, in the entire time that I've been home. I guess my questions are how do I get a hold of his command to get the money that I'm entitled to? and What can happen as far as custody goes?

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First thing is contact either Key Volunteer or Ombusman (depending on branch of military) to help you get ID card back or a new one and also contact Tricare and have them reissue and Tricare card at your new address.

Second you cannot normally divorce while pregnant so all paperwork can be ready until after you have baby. Baby then needs to be placed on DEERS so he/she can receive benefits.

No one can force you to name a child anything, at least the first name, but you wind up with a problem later if you do not give child father's last name. So give child whatever first name you want and Dad's last name.

You are not entitled to all of BAH, there are rules governing that in MILSPERSMAN.. It will help me help you if I know branch of service.