My husband needs help. AWOL

[shey_josh]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?CA

My husband went AWOL about 5 months ago, but he has a razon and can prove it. He had a very hard childhood, he has very bad depression, I am scare for him commit a suicide. His grandpa kill himself when he was 11 years old, We where having a very hard time in our life, and drove him to refugee in drugs who took control of himself, there is more... I can explain.

[rmet4nzkx]

How long was he in and did he have a drug waiver.

[shey_josh]

San Diego, CA
He was about to get out he had 2 months left, he had trouble with drugs when he was a teenager so that made him joined in the military to became a better person and stay away from drugs, and his goal was acomplished for his 3 first years in the marines he was station in Japan, unfortunally when he got transfer to San Diego he hang out with the wrong people inside base, marines who offered him drugs, and his weeknesess made him fail again. He is a very isolate person his grandparents who raised him where deaf, his parents where divorced when he was 1 year old. Drugs took control over him in his last months of service, so our lifes start going into a hole, and hit in our economy, started being behind on every bill, including rent, two weeks before my daugther birth he fail his pee test, driving him into a very bad depression he even thought about suicide, since he felt he fail as a husband and not yet a father. Also the last thing that happend to us was we got involved into a huge accident in our way to Balboa Hopital since I was in labor. That incident made him touch buttom. He felt really depressed and lonely he didn't have any advice or support of any kind, so we were in a very bad situation, since I was hurt and needed to see doctors at least 3 times a week, also himself dealing with his situation about drug abuse. He couldn't handle it and went UA for 32 days, but he turned in himself, that made things worse, since he didn't got paid and drove us into a very bad economy situation, military was being very strict with him, and me being hurt and with a new born baby was to much for him, they put him in jail for about 4 days knowing that I was hurt and needed to see doctors, so after he got out of jail, they made situation worse, since they change his schedule, he couldn't take me to doctors, my life was in risk they didn't care so he again went UA, now our life is very miserable since he can't work or do anything, which I feel is very unfear since he had very good records before they found out about his drug abuse, I even went and talk to his Mastersargeant and ask for help since I was worry about his depression and worry for his life.

[rmet4nzkx]

Are you a US citizen or here on a green card?

[shey_josh]

I am US citizen. I was raised in Mexico.

[rmet4nzkx]

Have you applied for welfare or petitioned for divorce? I think he is going to have to turn himself in, unfortunately you suffer as the reuslt of his bad choices.

[shey_josh]

That is not what I want. Thank you.
I know he had made bad choices, but nobody teach him to make good choices in life, he is learning with mistakes. We will be ok with money soon so I don't need to apply for walfere, my leg still hurt since my accident so the other car insurance is paying for my pain and suffer, but money at this point in my life it doesn't matter, My husband needs help, and he accept that he had made bad choices in his life, but he wants to pay for what he did, but I want them to be fear with him. His life haven't been easy, he saw his grandfather killed himself when he was 11 years old, and he also was mentally abuse from his step-father I think he doesn't deserve more punishment in his life, he deserves another change to succeded in life.

[rmet4nzkx]

Tell him to turn himself into a VA hospital and claim his history of abuse and ptsd that is the only chance he has, it may not be what you want but that may be your only choice. Your insurance money won't last long.

[csporluck]

Originally Posted by shey_josh

That is not what I want. Thank you.
I know he had made bad choices, but nobody teach him to make good choices in life, he is learning with mistakes. We will be ok with money soon so I don't need to apply for walfere, my leg still hurt since my accident so the other car insurance is paying for my pain and suffer, but money at this point in my life it doesn't matter, My husband needs help, and he accept that he had made bad choices in his life, but he wants to pay for what he did, but I want them to be fear with him. His life haven't been easy, he saw his grandfather killed himself when he was 11 years old, and he also was mentally abuse from his step-father I think he doesn't deserve more punishment in his life, he deserves another change to succeded in life.

Hate to be too Crass, but sounds like he bluew his chance by going AWOL.

[shey_josh]

Well he decide to turn in him self, but I am not going to give up on him. I already hired a good lawyer, a friend of my Step father, he said he can help and bring all his situation to his court.
Thank you.

[rmet4nzkx]

There are only a few attorney's competent to represent AWOL clients, just because they are licensed or a friend of a friend doesn't make them competent. But you are right, your husband needs to turn himself in, but don't expect his to get off lightly, he demonstrated he could tow the line for 3 years, so his excuses are not going to help much.

[acmb05]

If he only had two months left on his enlistement it is pretty close to being up by now but since I dont know what date his enlistment was supposed to be up I cant tell for sure.

SO I will advise you on what will more than likely happen IF his enlistment is up or almost up. They will take him in front of someone from the Jag office and inform him of the charges against him. More than likely he will be offered one of two choices.

1. Stay in the service and accept the article 15 and take whatever punishment they offer. Probably loss of 1/2 pay for 3 months and confinement to barracks for 3 months.

2. They will offer him to be released from the service with a General discharge under less than honorable condition or for the good of the service.

Number 2 is what is usually offered for someone who's active enlistment ended while he was awol.

Now I am not saying they will definately do this. It is only from my experience in transporting awols to Leavenworth and this is the usual outcome.

Dont be so quick to turn himself in if he is not in the same place as the base he went awol from. If you guys have moved out of state he will be taken to the closest military base and held there until they can transport him to Fort Leavenworth for his hearing. There he will spend approximately one week doing the above action and being out processed from the military. Also be informed that if he accepts a discharge that they can come back and make him pay back any sign up bonusses he received when he enlisted.

Best bet is to turn himself in to his unit commander if possible.

[rmet4nzkx]

Originally Posted by acmb05

If he only had two months left on his enlistement it is pretty close to being up by now but since I dont know what date his enlistment was supposed to be up I cant tell for sure.

SO I will advise you on what will more than likely happen IF his enlistment is up or almost up. They will take him in front of someone from the Jag office and inform him of the charges against him. More than likely he will be offered one of two choices.

1. Stay in the service and accept the article 15 and take whatever punishment they offer. Probably loss of 1/2 pay for 3 months and confinement to barracks for 3 months.

2. They will offer him to be released from the service with a General discharge under less than honorable condition or for the good of the service.

Number 2 is what is usually offered for someone who's active enlistment ended while he was awol.

Now I am not saying they will definately do this. It is only from my experience in transporting awols to Leavenworth and this is the usual outcome.

Dont be so quick to turn himself in if he is not in the same place as the base he went awol from. If you guys have moved out of state he will be taken to the closest military base and held there until they can transport him to Fort Leavenworth for his hearing. There he will spend approximately one week doing the above action and being out processed from the military. Also be informed that if he accepts a discharge that they can come back and make him pay back any sign up bonusses he received when he enlisted.

Best bet is to turn himself in to his unit commander if possible.

You need to read and conprehend.

He had 2 months left, FAILED UA
went AWOL 32 days
Turned himsself in
Was put in jail and lost pay,
Released because of wife's medical condition,
Went AWOL again.
Because wife was in accident they are living off her insurance $.

[acmb05]

Originally Posted by rmet4nzkx

You need to read and conprehend.

He had 2 months left, FAILED UA
went AWOL 32 days
Turned himsself in
Was put in jail and lost pay,
Released because of wife's medical condition,
Went AWOL again.
Because wife was in accident they are living off her insurance $.

He went awol again which mean more than likely he was awol or is awol when his enlistment ended in which case what I told her MIGHT happen and the way it CAN happen.

If you notice in my reply before you automatically assume am wrong I said IF HIS ENLISTMENT IS NOW UP.

[rmet4nzkx]

Originally Posted by acmb05

He went awol again which mean more than likely he was awol or is awol when his enlistment ended in which case what I told her MIGHT happen and the way it CAN happen.

If you notice in my reply before you automatically assume am wrong I said IF HIS ENLISTMENT IS NOW UP.

He went AWOL 2 times! & failed UA!!! They are not just going to let him go.