My son is run away from his Military base....

[worrymother]

Originally Posted by def.colicab

If he is not willing to turn himself in before the 60 day mark, then perhaps you should turn him in. Everyone is saying it, just call his command if you can, have a talk with them about it, and tell them that you want to alleviate this situation.

Helping him get back to where he belongs whether he wants to go or not is the right thing. It is not a betrayal of your mother/son love. Just think of it as a tough love which it sounds like this guy needs.

I may be wrong here, but after the 60 day mark, isnt he considered a deserter? Is that what he is waiting for?

Thank you for yout time and concern. I am really thinking about to do that;call them and see if I can help him in some way, I hope I dod not get the things worse...I do not know abut your question but something will change in his status after 60 days that is not going to take him back to his unit again. He read something here from someone else experience and he is taking this as the best thing to do once he does not want to go back to that same unit and face those people who harshing on him and humiliate a lot. I will talk to him about I myself call his unit and try to negotiate something if it is possible.....I am affraid to get this worse making he looks like the mom boy.

Thank you very much.

[dumbpvt]

Ma'm there's nothing you can do to make it worse at this point... unless you help him out with his plans. I've posted a thread recently with my problems it's on almost on the top of the board. Just look for my user name.
Call his unit now, like today, ASAP! If you can't find their number give me his unit and I'll get it for you (well I'll give you their webpage with contact info). Every day he waits is just making it worse. You have to urge him to do the right thing, nothing bad will come to him that he doesn't already deserve as punishment. Believe me if I were in his position I would do it right now without hesitating.

Please keep us posted.

[worrymother]

Originally Posted by dumbpvt

ma'm there's nothing you can do to make it worse at this point... Unless you help him out with his plans. I've posted a thread recently with my problems it's on almost on the top of the board. Just look for my user name.
Call his unit now, like today, asap! If you can't find their number give me his unit and i'll get it for you (well i'll give you their webpage with contact info). Every day he waits is just making it worse. You have to urge him to do the right thing, nothing bad will come to him that he doesn't already deserve as punishment. Believe me if i were in his position i would do it right now without hesitating.

Please keep us posted.

thank you so much!!! I have got you advice and already called them. I spoke with the chapeler and he is going to explain everything i said to the superior and i will call him tomorrow to see what is going to be. Thank you so much for your support and motivation for me to call them. My son seems to be more confortable now.
I will keep you informed.
Worry mother.

[dumbpvt]

Good news very happy to hear that!

[worrymother]

Originally Posted by dumbpvt

Good news very happy to hear that!

Thank you!
Now we have got to another point. I spoke with the "pastor" from the Military and explained that my son ran away because he was not being treated well and they were humiliating him and pick on him and also some details like when one of them hit him on his head. The pastor told me that when he turned himself in, he would tell everything what happened and they would investigate the case, if they find some prove that he was really telling the true, they would move him to another unit, but if not he would stay in the same unit.

So, now he is afraid of that because you know, how do they going to believe in him? is going to be his word against their and how he going is going to face those people after accusing them and have to be with them everyday...will be a nightmare.... So, we do not know what to do
There is a chance if he wait those 60 days to him being discharge and do not go back to the unit anymore...I think that would be the only escape of this situation.

[ERAUPIKE]

Originally Posted by worrymother

Thank you!
Now we have got to another point. I spoke with the "pastor" from the Military and explained that my son ran away because he was not being treated well and they were humiliating him and pick on him and also some details like when one of them hit him on his head. The pastor told me that when he turned himself in, he would tell everything what happened and they would investigate the case, if they find some prove that he was really telling the true, they would move him to another unit, but if not he would stay in the same unit.

So, now he is afraid of that because you know, how do they going to believe in him? is going to be his word against their and how he going is going to face those people after accusing them and have to be with them everyday...will be a nightmare.... So, we do not know what to do
There is a chance if he wait those 60 days to him being discharge and do not go back to the unit anymore...I think that would be the only escape of this situation.

Your son is scared to go back because he is not telling the truth. Why do you feel it is necessary for you to be involved in this process in anyway?

[worrymother]

Originally Posted by ERAUPIKE

Your son is scared to go back because he is not telling the truth. Why do you feel it is necessary for you to be involved in this process in anyway?

Thank you! You may are right, there was more things that he did not tell me. I am involved because I let him do what he wants to do and then I saw that the time was passing by and he was still trying to be out of the Military and I am helping him as a mother to be strong and face the mass he crated ASAP. Ans thank God it is almost done. He is already talking to the chapelin to arrange his return.
Thnak you all for the support and I will let you know how did it end up and help others in the same situation.
May God be with all of us.
Worry mother.

[ansel62]

Dear worried mom, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am also going through the same ordeal. My son is a Marine who went AWOL 6 months ago. My son has a brain tumor that he's had since he was 14 yrs, old. We didn't tell him, so he didn't know when he enlisted. He started getting sick so we had to let him know about the tumor. He went to his command to let them know he needed medical attention and was threatened and denied his medical attention, so he left. It's very difficult to deal with this, you don't know who to trust. People are quick to judge our young men without knowing the reasons why our sons have left and the seriousness of their situation. I received alot of support and info. from the GI rights hotline. They have put me in contact with support groups that don't jump to judgement. Be careful with some of the advice you may recieve from this forum. Not everyone is on your sons side, which I learned real quick. We have tried everything from going to our congress(they don't do much except put in for inquiry. You have to get involved with the support groups like VVAW or Mothers against the war, Military families speak out. Hope u find the help and support u and your son need. My prayers are with your son. Peace, Marine Mom.

[ERAUPIKE]

Originally Posted by ansel62

Dear worried mom, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am also going through the same ordeal. My son is a Marine who went AWOL 6 months ago. My son has a brain tumor that he's had since he was 14 yrs, old. We didn't tell him, so he didn't know when he enlisted. He started getting sick so we had to let him know about the tumor. He went to his command to let them know he needed medical attention and was threatened and denied his medical attention, so he left. It's very difficult to deal with this, you don't know who to trust. People are quick to judge our young men without knowing the reasons why our sons have left and the seriousness of their situation. I received alot of support and info. from the GI rights hotline. They have put me in contact with support groups that don't jump to judgement. Be careful with some of the advice you may recieve from this forum. Not everyone is on your sons side, which I learned real quick. We have tried everything from going to our congress(they don't do much except put in for inquiry. You have to get involved with the support groups like VVAW or Mothers against the war, Military families speak out. Hope u find the help and support u and your son need. My prayers are with your son. Peace, Marine Mom.

None of your story justifies your son running away. Like I told you before, if you continue excuses your sons misdeeds he will never grow up.

[Son of Slam]

Well, you just got a bunch of crap advice and now you stuck your mom nose in it and screwed it up for your son. Your son somehow knew what he was doing. He needs to be gone at least that long and to turn himself in afterwords so that they will not mess with him. They would have realized that he was unsuitable for service and given him an Undesirable Discharge. He would have been given medical and psychiatric examinations and an appointment to see the Chaplin.

Now, thanks to you, they will be confused.