no contact order

[rugar22]

What is the name of your state? alaska

my friend is in the army pending a medical board. he has been trying to get a divorce but his wife is deployed so he has to wait till she returns for midtour and even then she might not sign. anyway her mother is staying at his house so he asked if he could stay here and since we are good friends for 3 years now and i am also pending a divorce i said he could. His wife has contacted his chain of command and issued a "no contact order" through his chaion of command wich now means we cannot see each other. i understand how the military works and all but is their any way to fight this. can they really tell him where he can or cannot live or be friends with. we are in shooting clubs together and our kids have pretty much grown up together and now they are being affected by this too. Is there anything we can do about this as this is rediculous that the army can do this.

[fozzy2]

Long story short, if he has been issued a "no contact" order he'd better follow it. The military is not only worried about impropriety but also the mere appearance of impropriety, and him living with you while still married "looks bad" in the military's eyes. It does sometimes seem silly, but it's the law. He can always go in to his chain of command and argue that they should rescind the order (it doesn't really "come from his wife").

And, to bring up another issue, was his living with you and letting another use his house/apartment 'kosher' with regards to regulations on BAH and housing and such? That is not an area where you want to run afoul of the regs.

[rugar22]

well the houseing is ok because his kids were living in his house with their grandma and anyway next month he wont even be able to afford it because his wife moved her money to a differant bank account so whats he suppose to do then and yeah his wife didnt issue the order but shje asked them to do it and they followed her lead