no jokes please...need real help

What is the name of your state? CA

so yeah my fiances stbx has been seeing this other lil e-3 for AWHILE...got pregnant said she had a stillborn then said a miscarriage, wtfe ok...she still says he owes her because he's her hubby...wtf over? so he sent her 800 a month.(before we got engaged)well in march she tells him her new lil bf lives with her...so he makes her agree to 400(she doesnt need support w/a live in man, just their son does)...well her bf goes on cruise. and her car breaks, so she takes her happy lil ass down to NMCR and they make my fiance take out a 500 loan so she can get her car fixed...well, then she turns around and starts calling his command near daily...and even though he showed MULTIPLE articles of evidence supporting she'd cheated, got knocked up by someone else(as theyve been sep'd for 18 mos, and in diff states so it couldnt physically be his), and his command tells him that even though hes filed his divorce papers, i have to move out of our apt or he has to go back to the barracks, b/c even though hes filed his papers, he's still committing adultery...is this true???
i'm going through a divorce with a marine, we both live with other partners, and if i were to call his command, they'd laugh because, and i quote my stbx's SSGT, "how can you complain when you are doing the same thing?" sad part, i was single and with no one when i called just the one time...
fiance found a milpers manual that says her abondoning him( she waited till after he came to ca to tell him she wanted a divorce)makes her unable to obtain support, but that he still has to pay support for my soon to be step son....aw hell this was too long in writing....

heres my questions...and dont reply unless you can show me or point me to the order...is it still adultery if the divorce papers are already filed?(ca is a no-fault state and so is fl)...yet his command says give her what she wants and get back to the barracks...he has a chit in to get the 800 lowered to 458 through USMC legal...but our thing is, can he be in trouble for adultery if the state already recognizes him as legally seperated? shouldnt the military honor that also? hes not really cheating if they are going through a divorce, is he??? because if he is, then that means my hubs command is wrong for letting him do it...and he started cheatin when i thought our marriage was perfect....me and my fiance didnt even know each other till 8 mos ago, and they sep'd in dec of 2004

[CALIFPROLAW3]

[quote=CapsBaby1017200]What is the name of your state? CA

so yeah my fiances stbx has been seeing this other lil e-3 for AWHILE...got pregnant said she had a stillborn then said a miscarriage, wtfe ok...she still says he owes her because he's her hubby...wtf over? so he sent her 800 a month.(before we got engaged)well in march she tells him her new lil bf lives with her...so he makes her agree to 400(she doesnt need support w/a live in man, just their son does)...well her bf goes on cruise. and her car breaks, so she takes her happy lil ass down to NMCR and they make my fiance take out a 500 loan so she can get her car fixed...well, then she turns around and starts calling his command near daily...and even though he showed MULTIPLE articles of evidence supporting she'd cheated, got knocked up by someone else(as theyve been sep'd for 18 mos, and in diff states so it couldnt physically be his), and his command tells him that even though hes filed his divorce papers, i have to move out of our apt or he has to go back to the barracks, b/c even though hes filed his papers, he's still committing adultery...is this true???
i'm going through a divorce with a marine, we both live with other partners, and if i were to call his command, they'd laugh ...because, and i quote my stbx's SSGT, "how can you complain when you are doing the same thing?" sad part, i was single and with no one when i called just the one time...
fiance found a milpers manual that says her abondoning him( she waited till after he came to ca to tell him she wanted a divorce)makes her unable to obtain support, but that he still has to pay support for my soon to be step son....aw hell this was too long in writing....

heres my questions...and dont reply unless you can show me or point me to the order...is it still adultery if the divorce papers are already filed?(ca is a no-fault state and so is fl)...yet his command says give her what she wants and get back to the barracks...he has a chit in to get the 800 lowered to 458 through USMC legal...but our thing is, can he be in trouble for adultery if the state already recognizes him as legally seperated? shouldnt the military honor that also? hes not really cheating if they are going through a divorce, is he??? because if he is, then that means my hubs command is wrong for letting him do it...and he started cheatin when i thought our marriage was perfect....me and my fiance didnt even know each other till 8 mos ago, and they sep'd in dec of 2004...QUOTE]


My response:

Learn to write. Did you know that the spoken word is different than the written word? Yet, you write probably just like you talk. I'm not going to take my time to read through that grammatical mess. Either clean up your English usage, or find someone who can write for you - - in English.

You said in another post that you were 23 years old. Stop writing like a teenager.

IAAL

[ceara19]

Now you have a fiance AND a boyfriend AND a husband????

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Plus the fiance is still MARRIED! You must be very busy. How do you find time to come here and post stupid remarks?

[CALIFPROLAW3]

Originally Posted by ceara19

Now you have a fiance AND a boyfriend AND a husband????

[url]http://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=319456[/url]

[url]http://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=318059[/url]

Plus the fiance is still MARRIED! You must be very busy. How do you find time to come here and post stupid remarks?

My response:

Trailer trash people get so confused.

IAAL

[jackedupknees]

I think it would be best for you to contact the legal office at your base and explain your problem in person, it was extremely hard to follow. Also, you should wait until both of your divorces are final before living together, just to save yourself from any EXTRA drama or paperwork. He might be able to stay living off base if you do so. If they still want him to move on base, he might be able to stay off by showing he owns property (house, furniture, pets, etc) and it would cost the military money to move him back on base. As far as child support, you will not get any from your ex-husband for someone else's child. Your boyfriend/fiance will have to pay child support for his son if that is what the court has determined.