Proof of Adultrey

[AmandaOce]

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

I am recently separated however my husband left home and abandoned or should i say neglected me and his 4 month old baby...He left cause I accused him of cheating while I was pregnant...I have proof of emails that a female had sent me stating that she had unprotected sex with my husband and if thats not bad the day I caught him text messaging a female while he was at my house to drop the baby off he choked me to get the phone back i called pmo but it seems like he got in no trouble matter of fact the girl he text that he was seeing that night he was leaving my house (note we are not separated yet) Spent the night with him in the barracks the next day....I also cracked his voicemail code and saved messages from her to him about coming to see him....I know its not pictures but who really walks around with a camera trying to catch the act...I want to know why the military does nothing about a case like this when it does more mental damage on the spouse that they have been neglected and run over...To me it seems that since he got away with hitting me on top of cheating on me he can do anything...I wanna know who I have to talk to about this in the military because I have no clue and things like this should be gotten away with......The abused wife

[cyberspook]

Originally Posted by AmandaOce

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

I am recently separated however my husband left home and abandoned or should i say neglected me and his 4 month old baby...He left cause I accused him of cheating while I was pregnant...I have proof of emails that a female had sent me stating that she had unprotected sex with my husband and if thats not bad the day I caught him text messaging a female while he was at my house to drop the baby off he choked me to get the phone back i called pmo but it seems like he got in no trouble matter of fact the girl he text that he was seeing that night he was leaving my house (note we are not separated yet) Spent the night with him in the barracks the next day....I also cracked his voicemail code and saved messages from her to him about coming to see him....I know its not pictures but who really walks around with a camera trying to catch the act...I want to know why the military does nothing about a case like this when it does more mental damage on the spouse that they have been neglected and run over...To me it seems that since he got away with hitting me on top of cheating on me he can do anything...I wanna know who I have to talk to about this in the military because I have no clue and things like this should be gotten away with......The abused wife

If he hit you then you should call the police first of all. Second you can show your evidence of adultery to his commanding officer, but sometimes these types of things fall on deaf ears, and sometimes they don't.

You could always just leave his sorry *&^ and rake him over the coals for alimony and child support? Or the latest trend I think is a restraining order LOL

[badapple40]

Before going to the chain of command, THINK about what impact it would have on support if your husband got discharged and had no income to provide support...

[cyberspook]

Originally Posted by badapple40

Before going to the chain of command, THINK about what impact it would have on support if your husband got discharged and had no income to provide support...

That is a very good point. You really may want to consider the monetary aspect of things before you reach out to his commanding officer(s).

Better a cheating husband (or ex) with a steady paycheck you can garnish than a broke one.

[amazonwarrior]

Forget about the adultery for now. His superiors are probably doing the same thing.

If he hit you, you are entitled to get a protective order through the military at no cost to you. I know. I've done it myself. Furthermore, if he gets convicted, you can get money from the military after the divorce. I forget how much, but it's close to the BAH amount. i can find the site and give you the link.