What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
The durable power of attorney's client is my friend. I am 75. She is 89. She has no relatives. She lives in a retirement home, in assisted living, primarily because she has very little short term memory. She is otherwise sharp as a tack. She walks with a walker and has much energy.
I am the only person who visits her, outside of women employed through the power of attorney who take her out during the week.
For three years my friend and I had fun in Seattle every weekend. We went to concerts, movies, made dinner at my house, went on a civil rights march, visited at my friends' homes, went swimming, to the zoo, helped at a park clean-up. She accompanied me to my publisher's office--You get the picture.
There was a freek snow storm here last January. I left to take the bus--that time I did not drive to the facility. My friend ran out the door to accompany me. Employees of the facility, including a nurse, came out and with difficulty pulled her back in. I was accused of encouraging her to come with me. On the contrary, I tried to get her to go into the facility.
About a week later, there was a freek rainstorm. This time I had my car. My friend and I were going to go somewhere. She slipped and fell in a surge of water at the side of the car. I was not at her side at that moment. She got up immediately by herself. I took her back in immediately. She bruised her forehead which soon healed.
I have CPR. I believe the women--at least some--of the women who take her out do not have CPR.
At this time (since then), the power of attorney allows me to only visit her in the facility. I am not allowed to take my friend out at all--not by driving, by taxi, or with anyone else driving that he has not hired. Worse than that, at the birthday party I recently gave for my friend, he demanded that the young woman he hired to drive her to my home be allowed to walk in and have dinner with my friends, one of whom is a registered nurse. He did not advise me of the plan beforehand, and he did not apologize afterwards.
I am also not allowed to be present in my friend's medical appointments. I have requested this because, in addition to support of my friend in this kind of situation, it could inform me on any weakness in her to watch for.
Over the years, he has threatened me with bankruptcy for bringing her back 10 minutes late or not late at all. He has accused me of being after her money. (I am not at all.) Yesterday he said he would hang up the phone on me when I asked why he has this policy.
I would appreciate comments or stories that bear on this kind of policy by a power of attorney.