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What is the name of your state? Ohio
Help! My 24 yr old troubled son just told me he was sexually abused from age 13-18 by a neighbor. He had a "father-son" relationship with this man, they built a stock car together, spent every waking hr together, my son had his own rm at this married man's house. My son's father died in 1983, I thought this man was the greatest thing that had ever happened for us. Boy was I wrong! My son just got divorced 6 mos ago. He's drinking every night(& sometimes day) experimenting w/drugs, very depressed & when not drinking he's sleeping sometimes for 24 hrs straight. This man just recently pd my son $3,500 to keep quiet, evidently they agreed on $5000 (more to this that involves a meeting between my son & the perpetrator & a tape recording of the conversation). When the man didn't pay the rest of the $ that's when my son went in a rage & out of anger, told me what it was all about. What should we do? I am so worried about my son's self-destructive mode he's living. I am so angry & want to confront the perpetrator (not to mention what else I want to do to him) I want to see this man locked up! He has had about 3 other boys "helping" with the car in the past 5 yrs since my son left there in a rage. I set up a meeting w/ a counselor last wk & my son refused to go. We went to the prosecutor's ofc & was told to file a report w/ the sheriff dept. My son's ex-wife who knows nothing about this, works for the sheriff. He refused to go there. He knows he needs help & I think he's ready to report the crime. My son has always been a great kid & hard worker. He is going fast down a one-way street the wrong way!
Sincerely,
Susie(angy, hurt & desperate mom feeling very responsible)
Help! My 24 yr old troubled son just told me he was sexually abused from age 13-18 by a neighbor. He had a "father-son" relationship with this man, they built a stock car together, spent every waking hr together, my son had his own rm at this married man's house. My son's father died in 1983, I thought this man was the greatest thing that had ever happened for us. Boy was I wrong! My son just got divorced 6 mos ago. He's drinking every night(& sometimes day) experimenting w/drugs, very depressed & when not drinking he's sleeping sometimes for 24 hrs straight. This man just recently pd my son $3,500 to keep quiet, evidently they agreed on $5000 (more to this that involves a meeting between my son & the perpetrator & a tape recording of the conversation). When the man didn't pay the rest of the $ that's when my son went in a rage & out of anger, told me what it was all about. What should we do? I am so worried about my son's self-destructive mode he's living. I am so angry & want to confront the perpetrator (not to mention what else I want to do to him) I want to see this man locked up! He has had about 3 other boys "helping" with the car in the past 5 yrs since my son left there in a rage. I set up a meeting w/ a counselor last wk & my son refused to go. We went to the prosecutor's ofc & was told to file a report w/ the sheriff dept. My son's ex-wife who knows nothing about this, works for the sheriff. He refused to go there. He knows he needs help & I think he's ready to report the crime. My son has always been a great kid & hard worker. He is going fast down a one-way street the wrong way!
Sincerely,
Susie(angy, hurt & desperate mom feeling very responsible)