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What is the name of your state? new york
i know this is supposed to be short, but i can't help not filling you in with certain details.
in 1961 we (my parents, sisters and i) purchased a house in new york. it was my mother's wishes that eventually the house and all possessions would go to her three daughters. my father also desired this as it states in his will. after my mother passed away in 1985 my father remarried but did not move his new wife into this house at all. it is in his name alone. instead, he kept this one and bought another one in new jersey where she lived
with him. she never lived one day in the ny house. from the beginning it was a stormy marriage. he maintained the ny house commuting back and forth to take care of business here, paying taxes, etc. he made his will out after he remarried. his wishes were that she never get this house.
in march of 2002, she threw him out and when on the garden state had an accident with his car. luckily, in spite of the car rolling over four times, he suffered minor injuries. i was the one who was contacted even though i live in ny and she in nj. i went to see him in the hospital, she was never there and i made arrangements for his release, finding where his car was towed, bringing him cloths to leave the hospital and securing a u-haul to get his property at the towing office. my father had many belongings. it took over an hour to retrieve them and put them on the truck. we drove him to his ny home where he wanted
to go. there is more to this that is relevant. i will explain later.
my father, age 87 now, has been hospitalized since 1/4/03 with a stroke and is in a ny hospital. he has been here in ny since march, when we brought him home from his accident. he never went back to nj and she, his wife, never came here to ny.
as far as the current hospital records show, he was admitted with no identification or possessions at all. when i was informed and went to see him the next day, he was having difficulty communicating, recognizing people or remembering things. surprisingly, his wife, her daughter, son and son-in-law were there. when i had time alone with him i asked
him if he wanted me to check the house and would he give me his keys, something i never did before. maybe it was woman's intuition, i don't know. he said eddie, her son, has them. i know he didn't take them to do any favors for my father, because he didn't like him and my father does not have a dog or any other animal that needs tending too. my father was in a very vulnerable state. when i encountered her and her family in the lobby, I asked her son for my father's keys. he out and out said "no", that my father said not to give them to anyone. his wife immediately started screaming at the top of her lungs that
she was his wife and waved her fist dangerously close to my nose while screaming. my father had difficulty putting his thoughts together and would never give this guy anything
of his, especially keys to his home. he would never trust him. the funny thing is, if my father had no possessions with him -- where did eddie get the keys from.
It so happens, my sister, who lives in california, phone my father's neighbor (right next door), who's back door faces my father's back door. the driveway space is not wide enough for modern day cars. he told my sister, voluntarily mind you, that he saw eddie, her son, who incidentally lives a few blocks from my father, removing the hinges off my father's back door. If my father did not have his keys with him at the hospital, they were
most certainly in his house. the neighbor also said that eddie took my father's car. he would never let anyone drive his car, even when he gets it inspected, he refuses to let the mechanic drive it.
referring back to the day my father had the accident on the garden state -- when we brought him home he suddenly realized he couldn't find his keys to the house. oddly enough he told me and my husband that we had to go to eddie because eddie had tools and knew how to break into the house. i was labbergasted, but because it was very late now, we went to his house to ask for his assistance, which he refused us. he never denied he could do this task. he just refused to do it, probably because he knew my father was thrown out by his mother. he had no concern about my father’s welfare or dilemma and
turned us away. we had to bring my father to our house on long island for a few days. when we took him back he eventually found the keys in the mess of contents we helped him sort out.
my sister wants to come in from ca to see him and thought she'd stay at his house so she could see him every day because it's close to the hospital. but, we don't have the keys to the house and she'll have to stay with me on long island an hour and a half away.
ps -- eddie has had the keys for more than a week and god only knows what he's looking for or taking. don't forget everything in that house is from our living there with our parents, pictures, momentos, memories. we can't get to them. as far as the hospital is concerned, she is his next of kin, but we can try for a aower of attorney and a health care proxy. my father's will shows his desires worded very much like the poa. does that hold
any weight? can we bring charges against eddie regarding the keys and his entering the house? how do we do this? must we go to the nearest precinct on the evidence we have thus far? i cannot be sure of that the neighbor next store would be a witness to what he saw. i think he may not want to get involved. but, can he be called as a hostile witness?
we just don't know where to turn or what our options are and i know if my father were totally aware of what they are doing, it'd devastate him. in his delicate condition, i cannot mention any of this to him. by the way, on my last visit, he has improved very much. we had a very nice visit. the hospital claims his wife is next of kin and will take him and put him in a facility near her when he is discharged. at a previous time my father sort medical
assistance at another hospital in nj because she had stabbed him. this hospital has this on record. how can we obtain this information from them? i told the current hospital of my
concerns regarding his welfare, but the social worker, who has never seen or met his wife because she has never visited him there, claims they cannot get involved with this. how can we stop all this? time is of the essence for his release, though not set yet is not long off.
thanks for your help in advance.
i know this is supposed to be short, but i can't help not filling you in with certain details.
in 1961 we (my parents, sisters and i) purchased a house in new york. it was my mother's wishes that eventually the house and all possessions would go to her three daughters. my father also desired this as it states in his will. after my mother passed away in 1985 my father remarried but did not move his new wife into this house at all. it is in his name alone. instead, he kept this one and bought another one in new jersey where she lived
with him. she never lived one day in the ny house. from the beginning it was a stormy marriage. he maintained the ny house commuting back and forth to take care of business here, paying taxes, etc. he made his will out after he remarried. his wishes were that she never get this house.
in march of 2002, she threw him out and when on the garden state had an accident with his car. luckily, in spite of the car rolling over four times, he suffered minor injuries. i was the one who was contacted even though i live in ny and she in nj. i went to see him in the hospital, she was never there and i made arrangements for his release, finding where his car was towed, bringing him cloths to leave the hospital and securing a u-haul to get his property at the towing office. my father had many belongings. it took over an hour to retrieve them and put them on the truck. we drove him to his ny home where he wanted
to go. there is more to this that is relevant. i will explain later.
my father, age 87 now, has been hospitalized since 1/4/03 with a stroke and is in a ny hospital. he has been here in ny since march, when we brought him home from his accident. he never went back to nj and she, his wife, never came here to ny.
as far as the current hospital records show, he was admitted with no identification or possessions at all. when i was informed and went to see him the next day, he was having difficulty communicating, recognizing people or remembering things. surprisingly, his wife, her daughter, son and son-in-law were there. when i had time alone with him i asked
him if he wanted me to check the house and would he give me his keys, something i never did before. maybe it was woman's intuition, i don't know. he said eddie, her son, has them. i know he didn't take them to do any favors for my father, because he didn't like him and my father does not have a dog or any other animal that needs tending too. my father was in a very vulnerable state. when i encountered her and her family in the lobby, I asked her son for my father's keys. he out and out said "no", that my father said not to give them to anyone. his wife immediately started screaming at the top of her lungs that
she was his wife and waved her fist dangerously close to my nose while screaming. my father had difficulty putting his thoughts together and would never give this guy anything
of his, especially keys to his home. he would never trust him. the funny thing is, if my father had no possessions with him -- where did eddie get the keys from.
It so happens, my sister, who lives in california, phone my father's neighbor (right next door), who's back door faces my father's back door. the driveway space is not wide enough for modern day cars. he told my sister, voluntarily mind you, that he saw eddie, her son, who incidentally lives a few blocks from my father, removing the hinges off my father's back door. If my father did not have his keys with him at the hospital, they were
most certainly in his house. the neighbor also said that eddie took my father's car. he would never let anyone drive his car, even when he gets it inspected, he refuses to let the mechanic drive it.
referring back to the day my father had the accident on the garden state -- when we brought him home he suddenly realized he couldn't find his keys to the house. oddly enough he told me and my husband that we had to go to eddie because eddie had tools and knew how to break into the house. i was labbergasted, but because it was very late now, we went to his house to ask for his assistance, which he refused us. he never denied he could do this task. he just refused to do it, probably because he knew my father was thrown out by his mother. he had no concern about my father’s welfare or dilemma and
turned us away. we had to bring my father to our house on long island for a few days. when we took him back he eventually found the keys in the mess of contents we helped him sort out.
my sister wants to come in from ca to see him and thought she'd stay at his house so she could see him every day because it's close to the hospital. but, we don't have the keys to the house and she'll have to stay with me on long island an hour and a half away.
ps -- eddie has had the keys for more than a week and god only knows what he's looking for or taking. don't forget everything in that house is from our living there with our parents, pictures, momentos, memories. we can't get to them. as far as the hospital is concerned, she is his next of kin, but we can try for a aower of attorney and a health care proxy. my father's will shows his desires worded very much like the poa. does that hold
any weight? can we bring charges against eddie regarding the keys and his entering the house? how do we do this? must we go to the nearest precinct on the evidence we have thus far? i cannot be sure of that the neighbor next store would be a witness to what he saw. i think he may not want to get involved. but, can he be called as a hostile witness?
we just don't know where to turn or what our options are and i know if my father were totally aware of what they are doing, it'd devastate him. in his delicate condition, i cannot mention any of this to him. by the way, on my last visit, he has improved very much. we had a very nice visit. the hospital claims his wife is next of kin and will take him and put him in a facility near her when he is discharged. at a previous time my father sort medical
assistance at another hospital in nj because she had stabbed him. this hospital has this on record. how can we obtain this information from them? i told the current hospital of my
concerns regarding his welfare, but the social worker, who has never seen or met his wife because she has never visited him there, claims they cannot get involved with this. how can we stop all this? time is of the essence for his release, though not set yet is not long off.
thanks for your help in advance.
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