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I have a daughter who is 16, we live in NJ.
My daughter has been seeing a young man who is 18 for over a year. I have tried to stop her from seeing him, he is into drugs and has a criminal record.
My daughter has recently been disappearing with him on weekends. She will go to work on Friday afternoon and when i go to pick her up at night when work is over she is gone.
I have had the police look for her, i call all her friends and nobody knows where she is.
I tried to get a restraining order against him but the police say that i can't.
They say my daughter would have to do it.
She won't. She says no one can keep her from him.
This past weekend she didn't come home again.
On Sunday night i received a call from dyfs.
They told me to come to the police station.
My daughter was there. She told her boss at work that she was afraid to come after she had been gone for the entire weekend.
Her boss took her to the police station.
My daughter told them that i beat her.
This is not true, if anything my daughter is very spoiled. It hurt me for her to say these things. I think she did this so she could get away with staying out for the weekend.
The dyfs worker told me to get my daughter to stay away from her boyfriend.
I told her i have tried.
She told me to ground her. I have tried.
My daughter just walks out the door cursing at me and i can't stop her.
In front of the dyfs worker i asked the police once again if i can get a restraining order against my daughters boyfriend. They told me again there was nothing they could do.
That's when the dyfs worker said i can't believe nothing can be done.
Now dyfs wants the whole family to be in counceling. When my daughter heard this she went crazy, cursing and yelling saying she wouldn't do it.
What can i do? How can i keep her from troulble?
My daughter has been seeing a young man who is 18 for over a year. I have tried to stop her from seeing him, he is into drugs and has a criminal record.
My daughter has recently been disappearing with him on weekends. She will go to work on Friday afternoon and when i go to pick her up at night when work is over she is gone.
I have had the police look for her, i call all her friends and nobody knows where she is.
I tried to get a restraining order against him but the police say that i can't.
They say my daughter would have to do it.
She won't. She says no one can keep her from him.
This past weekend she didn't come home again.
On Sunday night i received a call from dyfs.
They told me to come to the police station.
My daughter was there. She told her boss at work that she was afraid to come after she had been gone for the entire weekend.
Her boss took her to the police station.
My daughter told them that i beat her.
This is not true, if anything my daughter is very spoiled. It hurt me for her to say these things. I think she did this so she could get away with staying out for the weekend.
The dyfs worker told me to get my daughter to stay away from her boyfriend.
I told her i have tried.
She told me to ground her. I have tried.
My daughter just walks out the door cursing at me and i can't stop her.
In front of the dyfs worker i asked the police once again if i can get a restraining order against my daughters boyfriend. They told me again there was nothing they could do.
That's when the dyfs worker said i can't believe nothing can be done.
Now dyfs wants the whole family to be in counceling. When my daughter heard this she went crazy, cursing and yelling saying she wouldn't do it.
What can i do? How can i keep her from troulble?