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What is the name of your state? Wisconsin
Hi. I am looking for advice and some sense of the legal applications of the following situation. I have been divorced for nearly 8 years. My X and I have one child, age 8. We have joint custody of our child; I have sole placement of the child. My X has verbally harassed me (my opinion at this point) since the point of separation. Usually twice yearly, he threatens to take me to court and reduce child support payments (which are state-mandated and garnished). He has (per him) convinced his family, coworkers, friends and new wife that I am an immoral, evil and irresponsible witch. He accuses me of neglect of our child (not true) and has stated verbally and in writing that he and his wife want to take my son and raise him themselves. He has sent letters threatening to take me to court (usually for reducing support payments, sometimes for taking our son). In the past, this has scared me tremendously to the point of seeking counseling. He says that I am crazy (not true even in the loosest of terms). Our son was diagnosed with several autoimmune diseases in the past two years. Our son also has a history of behavioral problems which have caused suspension as early as kindergarten and kept me on the verge of seeking new daycare approximately once yearly. I have never known what has caused our son's difficulties, and believe me I have researched and tried to help him more than any parent I can imagine. He attended counseling for three years. I've tried ritalin, adderall and other meds per Doctors ideas (never helped). Perhaps his issues are medical based and yet no answer can be found to this point. My exhusband says that our son's problems are *my* fault. He has accused me of sleeping all day (who has time?!), having men sleep over while my son is home (never happened), getting undue child support (the state mandates and garnishes - not my decision!), and more. At one point (2 years ago) he asked my son by phone if he (son) ever "sees a man in mommy's bed in the morning" and "are there any man's clothing in mommy's closet?" Most recently, my son told me that Daddy says Mommy sleeps all day because she's lazy. He recently accused me of being neglectful because I bought my son Velcro (not tied) tennis shoes and because he has had to our son's fingernails on more than one occasion (he doesnt' think that the father should have to do this menial task). He humiliated my son by telling him that all the kids will laugh at him for those velcro shoes. My son was upset but I reassured him. Stupid, right? A few days ago I received two more emails from my ex...this is after I sent a reply to his previous email and told him to "stop harassing me by sending emails"...in one of the new emails he said that he "would like to get my blood tested" because he is certain that he has "smelled pot in my home". I don't own or use any illegal drugs. And another accusation came up: About a year ago, my son (who suffers from anxiety) woke up in the middle of the night, couldn't "find me" and walked out of the house in his underwear in the middle of wintertime "looking for me". But my ex-husband said in this email that he doesn't believe that that I was home - he thinks I was sleeping over at my boyfriend's while my son was home alone. Without rambling, let me state to you that this is NOT true. My son has a history of sleep disturbances which have disappeared since starting on anti-anxiety meds shortly after this episode.
I am a doctor. I have an excellent job, make a good salary, have a wonderful man in my life now. My son is a beautiful child who has many challenges but is active socially in sports and with friends. My son requires four injections of insulin daily and cannot consume regular foods - that is, I have to prepare or personally monitor every bit of food that enters into his body or he can die. I work full-time, care for my son's medical conditions, maintain a home and try to find some time left-over for "me". My family thinks I do a great job, and my friends think I am the best Mom in the world. But my ex- continues to try to make me miserable. Often, it works - at least for awhile. I bought my son toys for Christmas - my ex says they are electronic babysitters to take the place of a mother who doesn't spend time with him. He has accused me (written and verbally) of being a liar. He tells my son that I am a liar. This is all damaging to my son, who is in the middle. I tell my son that Daddy is mad at me, not him. But it upsets him. My son says he feels sad when Daddy says bad things about me, but that he is afraid to tell Daddy because "he'll get mad at me." When I tell my ex- that he is upsetting our son, my ex- calls me a liar.
IS there any possibility of a defamation/libel/slander suit here? According to my ex-husband, his whole family, coworkers and friends "know all about my acts". Given history, I have no doubt (NO doubt) that he has told everyone he knows of what a horrible mother he thinks I am.
Hi. I am looking for advice and some sense of the legal applications of the following situation. I have been divorced for nearly 8 years. My X and I have one child, age 8. We have joint custody of our child; I have sole placement of the child. My X has verbally harassed me (my opinion at this point) since the point of separation. Usually twice yearly, he threatens to take me to court and reduce child support payments (which are state-mandated and garnished). He has (per him) convinced his family, coworkers, friends and new wife that I am an immoral, evil and irresponsible witch. He accuses me of neglect of our child (not true) and has stated verbally and in writing that he and his wife want to take my son and raise him themselves. He has sent letters threatening to take me to court (usually for reducing support payments, sometimes for taking our son). In the past, this has scared me tremendously to the point of seeking counseling. He says that I am crazy (not true even in the loosest of terms). Our son was diagnosed with several autoimmune diseases in the past two years. Our son also has a history of behavioral problems which have caused suspension as early as kindergarten and kept me on the verge of seeking new daycare approximately once yearly. I have never known what has caused our son's difficulties, and believe me I have researched and tried to help him more than any parent I can imagine. He attended counseling for three years. I've tried ritalin, adderall and other meds per Doctors ideas (never helped). Perhaps his issues are medical based and yet no answer can be found to this point. My exhusband says that our son's problems are *my* fault. He has accused me of sleeping all day (who has time?!), having men sleep over while my son is home (never happened), getting undue child support (the state mandates and garnishes - not my decision!), and more. At one point (2 years ago) he asked my son by phone if he (son) ever "sees a man in mommy's bed in the morning" and "are there any man's clothing in mommy's closet?" Most recently, my son told me that Daddy says Mommy sleeps all day because she's lazy. He recently accused me of being neglectful because I bought my son Velcro (not tied) tennis shoes and because he has had to our son's fingernails on more than one occasion (he doesnt' think that the father should have to do this menial task). He humiliated my son by telling him that all the kids will laugh at him for those velcro shoes. My son was upset but I reassured him. Stupid, right? A few days ago I received two more emails from my ex...this is after I sent a reply to his previous email and told him to "stop harassing me by sending emails"...in one of the new emails he said that he "would like to get my blood tested" because he is certain that he has "smelled pot in my home". I don't own or use any illegal drugs. And another accusation came up: About a year ago, my son (who suffers from anxiety) woke up in the middle of the night, couldn't "find me" and walked out of the house in his underwear in the middle of wintertime "looking for me". But my ex-husband said in this email that he doesn't believe that that I was home - he thinks I was sleeping over at my boyfriend's while my son was home alone. Without rambling, let me state to you that this is NOT true. My son has a history of sleep disturbances which have disappeared since starting on anti-anxiety meds shortly after this episode.
I am a doctor. I have an excellent job, make a good salary, have a wonderful man in my life now. My son is a beautiful child who has many challenges but is active socially in sports and with friends. My son requires four injections of insulin daily and cannot consume regular foods - that is, I have to prepare or personally monitor every bit of food that enters into his body or he can die. I work full-time, care for my son's medical conditions, maintain a home and try to find some time left-over for "me". My family thinks I do a great job, and my friends think I am the best Mom in the world. But my ex- continues to try to make me miserable. Often, it works - at least for awhile. I bought my son toys for Christmas - my ex says they are electronic babysitters to take the place of a mother who doesn't spend time with him. He has accused me (written and verbally) of being a liar. He tells my son that I am a liar. This is all damaging to my son, who is in the middle. I tell my son that Daddy is mad at me, not him. But it upsets him. My son says he feels sad when Daddy says bad things about me, but that he is afraid to tell Daddy because "he'll get mad at me." When I tell my ex- that he is upsetting our son, my ex- calls me a liar.
IS there any possibility of a defamation/libel/slander suit here? According to my ex-husband, his whole family, coworkers and friends "know all about my acts". Given history, I have no doubt (NO doubt) that he has told everyone he knows of what a horrible mother he thinks I am.