lambshelly
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Wisconsin
Hello, my boyfriend has a no contact order against him to see me. Here is what happened.
Last week my boyfriend was arrested for battery (I think that was the charge). He had fallen asleep early friday night and after about an hour I tried to wake him. He lashed out and hit me in the face, but never woke up. The next day I was outside and a neighbor saw the bruise and I told him what happened and HE called the police. (It should be noted that he was also making advances towards me that I did not want).
The police came and arrested my boyfriend even though I told them whaat happened and said that I did not want to press charges. I also told them that it looked worse than it was because I have always bruised easily and almost always have bruise on my arms and legs from bumping into things. My boyfriend has never hit me before, although he has tried to when several other times I have tried to wake him up.
I should note a few things, the night this happened he had only one wine cooler so he was not drunk. He was out in 90 degree heat for several hours which was why he was so tired, he fell asleep at 8:00 o'clock. I had a bruise on my face from a week earlier when I fell against the tub (again it looked worse than it was), and my boyfriend was so worried he called 911 for that one. So my face basically looked like he had beat the crap out of me.
Anyway I bailed him out of jail the next morning and signed the waiver on the no contact order. We spent Sunday together and he assured me that everything would turn out OK because of the circumstances surounding this incident. He had to go to court Monday and said that it was routine and not to worry about it. Boy was he wrong! Now my world seems to be falling apart.
Apparently they issued a new no contact order when he went to court. The day he was issued the no contact order he would not even answer my calls. Several hours after his scheduled court appointment he finally showed up with the police to get some clothes and things. It was a horrible seen, neither one of us could stop crying and the police would not even let him hug me good bye.
The next day he finally answered one of my calls and now several days have gone be and he will finally call me a couple times a day. He refuses to come over to see me because he is afraid that people are watching for him. He even thinks that they will look at his phone records to see if he called me or even supeona my phone records to see if we talked.
I want him to at least come back and spend a night or two with me. He refuses saying that he will get caught and go to prison. So instead he spends the nights in a motel. He wont even let me know which one because he says if I come over there he will have to leave or get arrested.
I just want to see him so bad and I think he is getting carried away with this whole mess. I try to tell him that we are just two people in this whole town who have never had any trouble before and that no one is watching us. He acts as though people are looking around every corner for him. I think that as long as no police are called here for anything we will be OK.
My question is how hard do they actually try to watch him while this no contact order is on? He acts as though he is now one of America's Most Wanted!! Is he right that he has to be that careful? Phone records, surveilance, coming to our apartment to loook for him? To me it sounds like he is either over reacting or beginning to leave me for good.
Hello, my boyfriend has a no contact order against him to see me. Here is what happened.
Last week my boyfriend was arrested for battery (I think that was the charge). He had fallen asleep early friday night and after about an hour I tried to wake him. He lashed out and hit me in the face, but never woke up. The next day I was outside and a neighbor saw the bruise and I told him what happened and HE called the police. (It should be noted that he was also making advances towards me that I did not want).
The police came and arrested my boyfriend even though I told them whaat happened and said that I did not want to press charges. I also told them that it looked worse than it was because I have always bruised easily and almost always have bruise on my arms and legs from bumping into things. My boyfriend has never hit me before, although he has tried to when several other times I have tried to wake him up.
I should note a few things, the night this happened he had only one wine cooler so he was not drunk. He was out in 90 degree heat for several hours which was why he was so tired, he fell asleep at 8:00 o'clock. I had a bruise on my face from a week earlier when I fell against the tub (again it looked worse than it was), and my boyfriend was so worried he called 911 for that one. So my face basically looked like he had beat the crap out of me.
Anyway I bailed him out of jail the next morning and signed the waiver on the no contact order. We spent Sunday together and he assured me that everything would turn out OK because of the circumstances surounding this incident. He had to go to court Monday and said that it was routine and not to worry about it. Boy was he wrong! Now my world seems to be falling apart.
Apparently they issued a new no contact order when he went to court. The day he was issued the no contact order he would not even answer my calls. Several hours after his scheduled court appointment he finally showed up with the police to get some clothes and things. It was a horrible seen, neither one of us could stop crying and the police would not even let him hug me good bye.
The next day he finally answered one of my calls and now several days have gone be and he will finally call me a couple times a day. He refuses to come over to see me because he is afraid that people are watching for him. He even thinks that they will look at his phone records to see if he called me or even supeona my phone records to see if we talked.
I want him to at least come back and spend a night or two with me. He refuses saying that he will get caught and go to prison. So instead he spends the nights in a motel. He wont even let me know which one because he says if I come over there he will have to leave or get arrested.
I just want to see him so bad and I think he is getting carried away with this whole mess. I try to tell him that we are just two people in this whole town who have never had any trouble before and that no one is watching us. He acts as though people are looking around every corner for him. I think that as long as no police are called here for anything we will be OK.
My question is how hard do they actually try to watch him while this no contact order is on? He acts as though he is now one of America's Most Wanted!! Is he right that he has to be that careful? Phone records, surveilance, coming to our apartment to loook for him? To me it sounds like he is either over reacting or beginning to leave me for good.