Josh the idiot
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Nevada
So here is what happened:
I was staying the night at my friends house. When I got ready to go to sleep at his house, I made a bed on the floor. My friend Mike(the dad) brought me a blanket and noticed there was not a blanket on Sara's(the daughter) bed when I was getting a pillow from the closet. I texted Sara and told her she could have the blanket if she wanted it. She came a few minutes later and gave me a quick peck goodnight and took the blanket. She texted me back after some time passed and asked if I wanted the blanket back, I assumed she didn’t need it after all. I said ok. She came out and set the blanket down, kneeled down and immediately started kissing me and then straddled on me like a lap dance. I was overwhelmed and we kissed and I touched her breasts outside her shirt and after 2 minutes we stopped and as she was getting up her hand slid down my chest and my hands out of reaction, touched her hand and with no force, it ended up on my silk boxers, it all happened so fast. She touched me for 2-3 seconds and she continued to get up and went back to her room. I felt bad and so did she and I texted her that I wish she could come back because I was thinking I wanted to just hug her and tell her I was sorry that we did that. She was sorry too. We decided to just go to sleep and we didn't see anymore of each other. We wanted to forget it ever happened so we agreed to delete all texts surrounding what we had done. I left the next day
I guess she told Mike(her dad) the next day and he started texting me from her phone posing as her to push me and see how far I would go. I replied to a few of the texts in a less than appropriate manner as I thought she was just messing with me, Then she(he) started saying more personal stuff and I realized that this was stupid and wrong and started backing away. She said that she wanted to give me her virginity and I told her that it was precious and that she needed to hold on to that for a few more years, and that she needed to focus on school. The texts ended as Mike realized I would not do that with her.
I told Mike after a few weeks what had happened because I felt really bad and thought he should know. He of course already knew and told me that he and Sara already made a statement to the police and they were gathering evidence(phone records) before presenting to the DA. Mike understands that Sara had a part in this and although I messed up and have damaged our friendship, he doesn't really want to press charges since what happened did not go to far, it was mutual and I knew I got caught up in the heat of the moment. In addition, he was pleased that I brought it to his attention on my own. He told me he is going to the courthouse to make a statement on my behalf and see if it can be dropped as he realized that I am very remorse about the situation and that no good can come from proceeding.
My question is, if the ex-wife pushes on with this, what should I do to minimize the damage? I feel horrible that this all happened and have been beating myself up for it since it happened. Both Mike and Sara do not want to see me go through all this because I made a stupid mistake.
I am 37. Yes, I know how bad that is, I did not "prey" on her, it just happened. It is my fault that I did not push her away. I am ashamed of myself and have to live with that for the rest of my life.
Thank you for any positive input to my situation.
So here is what happened:
I was staying the night at my friends house. When I got ready to go to sleep at his house, I made a bed on the floor. My friend Mike(the dad) brought me a blanket and noticed there was not a blanket on Sara's(the daughter) bed when I was getting a pillow from the closet. I texted Sara and told her she could have the blanket if she wanted it. She came a few minutes later and gave me a quick peck goodnight and took the blanket. She texted me back after some time passed and asked if I wanted the blanket back, I assumed she didn’t need it after all. I said ok. She came out and set the blanket down, kneeled down and immediately started kissing me and then straddled on me like a lap dance. I was overwhelmed and we kissed and I touched her breasts outside her shirt and after 2 minutes we stopped and as she was getting up her hand slid down my chest and my hands out of reaction, touched her hand and with no force, it ended up on my silk boxers, it all happened so fast. She touched me for 2-3 seconds and she continued to get up and went back to her room. I felt bad and so did she and I texted her that I wish she could come back because I was thinking I wanted to just hug her and tell her I was sorry that we did that. She was sorry too. We decided to just go to sleep and we didn't see anymore of each other. We wanted to forget it ever happened so we agreed to delete all texts surrounding what we had done. I left the next day
I guess she told Mike(her dad) the next day and he started texting me from her phone posing as her to push me and see how far I would go. I replied to a few of the texts in a less than appropriate manner as I thought she was just messing with me, Then she(he) started saying more personal stuff and I realized that this was stupid and wrong and started backing away. She said that she wanted to give me her virginity and I told her that it was precious and that she needed to hold on to that for a few more years, and that she needed to focus on school. The texts ended as Mike realized I would not do that with her.
I told Mike after a few weeks what had happened because I felt really bad and thought he should know. He of course already knew and told me that he and Sara already made a statement to the police and they were gathering evidence(phone records) before presenting to the DA. Mike understands that Sara had a part in this and although I messed up and have damaged our friendship, he doesn't really want to press charges since what happened did not go to far, it was mutual and I knew I got caught up in the heat of the moment. In addition, he was pleased that I brought it to his attention on my own. He told me he is going to the courthouse to make a statement on my behalf and see if it can be dropped as he realized that I am very remorse about the situation and that no good can come from proceeding.
My question is, if the ex-wife pushes on with this, what should I do to minimize the damage? I feel horrible that this all happened and have been beating myself up for it since it happened. Both Mike and Sara do not want to see me go through all this because I made a stupid mistake.
I am 37. Yes, I know how bad that is, I did not "prey" on her, it just happened. It is my fault that I did not push her away. I am ashamed of myself and have to live with that for the rest of my life.
Thank you for any positive input to my situation.