sleeplessDad
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
Once you have lived a parents worst nightmare, the nightmares get worse.
Shortly after turning 17, my daughter’s life started taking a turn for the worse. She had started dating a 19 year old who seemed like a good guy from a nice family. My daughter started sneaking out, doing drugs, and cared less and less for others. Counseling didn’t work and she would just keep sneaking out when grounded. After banning the young man from the house, we even caught him breaking in one evening (2:30 am). Taking my daughter’s cell phone only resulted in her stealing mine or getting a disposable from the boy friend.
The police wouldn’t do anything. One morning we had 2 deputies in our kitchen when our daughter came in. She admitted to being with her boyfriend drinking at his house. Long story short the deputies didn’t even file a report. Over the past year we had the police at our house over a dozen times resulting in no charges. Even with texts between my daughter and her boyfriend about drug use / dealing and pornographic pictures of them from my daughter’s phone... nothing. Talking to the commonwealth Attorney (VA) was equally frustrating. The first time I went to the magistrate to press charges, I was met by one of the investigating deputies. He went in to talk to the magistrate first, who then refused to see me.
Once I even convinced a deputy to come over and take my daughter’s statement. Instead, the deputy’s sergeant showed up and told her no less then 4 times she didn’t have to, and never asked her for the statement even after I pushed.
It was not until we found a Facebook post referencing the earlier break in did the Commonwealth Attorney give permission to the magistrate to allow us to press charges. When court came around, the Commonwealth Attorney did not show up and the judge let him off.
Its a year later and my daughter is a now homeless addict who refuses treatment. She is also on probation for felony drug charges. The boyfriend has never been charged with anything other than trespassing. Just recently, I found out that prior to her 18th birthday, she was in the car with her boyfriend when he was pulled over and found in the possession of drugs. Apparently not the first time, he avoided prosecution by acting as an informant. Knowing he was a dealer, the officer confiscated the drugs and allowed him to drive off with my underage daughter.
Is it likely that the reason we could never get action taken was because of his CI status?
Can the police just ignore the safety / well-being of a minor like this? Is it possible to charge the officers with endangering a minor?
Who do I go to for charges against the officer? Obviously not the locals.
Would this be a criminal case? Civil?
Once you have lived a parents worst nightmare, the nightmares get worse.
Shortly after turning 17, my daughter’s life started taking a turn for the worse. She had started dating a 19 year old who seemed like a good guy from a nice family. My daughter started sneaking out, doing drugs, and cared less and less for others. Counseling didn’t work and she would just keep sneaking out when grounded. After banning the young man from the house, we even caught him breaking in one evening (2:30 am). Taking my daughter’s cell phone only resulted in her stealing mine or getting a disposable from the boy friend.
The police wouldn’t do anything. One morning we had 2 deputies in our kitchen when our daughter came in. She admitted to being with her boyfriend drinking at his house. Long story short the deputies didn’t even file a report. Over the past year we had the police at our house over a dozen times resulting in no charges. Even with texts between my daughter and her boyfriend about drug use / dealing and pornographic pictures of them from my daughter’s phone... nothing. Talking to the commonwealth Attorney (VA) was equally frustrating. The first time I went to the magistrate to press charges, I was met by one of the investigating deputies. He went in to talk to the magistrate first, who then refused to see me.
Once I even convinced a deputy to come over and take my daughter’s statement. Instead, the deputy’s sergeant showed up and told her no less then 4 times she didn’t have to, and never asked her for the statement even after I pushed.
It was not until we found a Facebook post referencing the earlier break in did the Commonwealth Attorney give permission to the magistrate to allow us to press charges. When court came around, the Commonwealth Attorney did not show up and the judge let him off.
Its a year later and my daughter is a now homeless addict who refuses treatment. She is also on probation for felony drug charges. The boyfriend has never been charged with anything other than trespassing. Just recently, I found out that prior to her 18th birthday, she was in the car with her boyfriend when he was pulled over and found in the possession of drugs. Apparently not the first time, he avoided prosecution by acting as an informant. Knowing he was a dealer, the officer confiscated the drugs and allowed him to drive off with my underage daughter.
Is it likely that the reason we could never get action taken was because of his CI status?
Can the police just ignore the safety / well-being of a minor like this? Is it possible to charge the officers with endangering a minor?
Who do I go to for charges against the officer? Obviously not the locals.
Would this be a criminal case? Civil?
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