What is the name of your state? California
I am a resident of California.
My spouse and I--both in our mid-fifties--have been stalked by an estranged (blood) relative with a 35+ year history of illegal conduct, including the interstate abduction of an adult relative, and persistent harassment of and threats (including threats of bodily harm) against relatives, in-laws, and their personal and professional associates. The stalker has never had contact with our child, but has made two confirmed, carefully-planned attempts to gain access to our child, the first of which enabled us to obtain a 3-year Calif. RO (1997-2000) against the stalker, who has posed a continuing abduction risk to our child, now a college-bound teen.
The stalker, a resident of New York State, is--to the best of our knowledge--still living, and will likely still be living when our teen enters college in Fall 2008. Our teen, an exceptional high-achiever who intends to pursue an academic program offered by very few U.S. universities, is currently considering and preparing to apply to both in-state and out-of-state colleges, all of which are highly selective, and three of which are located in New York State.
Our knowledge of the stalker's history makes us certain that the stalker, long confirmed to use private investigators and personal agents to monitor our family, will quickly discover the location of our teen's college, and will travel there to confront and attempt to abduct our teen. We are certain this will occur regardless of where our teen is attending college. However, we think it will be easier for the stalker to succeed at--and possibly avoid federal prosecution for--an abduction if it takes place entirely within the stalker's home state. Therefore, we are advising our teen to drop consideration of colleges located in New York State. Our teen is willing to heed our advice.
We must balance concern for our teen's safety with concern for our teen's academic needs, which will very likely include attending college out-of-state. However, the abduction risk posed by the stalker is real, and we (and our teen) take this risk seriously. How we can best protect our teen, and how we can best respond to an abduction or attempted abduction when it occurs?
We would appreciate your advice. Thank you.