Quarterlife
Junior Member
In 2001, I moved to a new City...BIG MISTAKE. I bought a cheap house, next door to a male front line emergency worker (Fireman). He began by flirting with me, but as I rejected his advances over and over, he turned extremely nasty. He derides me if I try to leave my house, has sent sexually explicit and death threat letters over my side wall, Defecates and urinates on my doorstep, causes malicious damage to my property with his vehicle…plus much more that I can’t write here. All in all, I’ve been harassed, intimidated and frightened for the last 11 years by him, and even though I have many pieces of video footage of my neighbour doing these things, the Police claimed that they had him investigated, but could find no strong evidence to warrant an arrest.
This 'Creature' is so invested in terrorising me that he monitors everything I do, I have taken videos and recordings of the stuff he does and says, one that shows him hanging over the back wall saying 'I will never let you leave darling, I know you love me'. I have recorded these events in journals and kept the names of attending officers and event No’s.
The Police claim they misplaced the first 3 original copies of these nasty letters that I handed over to them. They asked me for the originals of all 40+ letters, and the 20 others that I question being attributed to my neighbour. I refused to give the originals, and the officers became annoyed that I was only willing to give them copies saying ‘How do you expect us to do our job if your not willing to give us the evidence? ‘We can’t be expected to do much with just copies, we need the originals’. As this is the most damning evidence I have against him, I will not let them out of my possession.
I have also been receiving numerous lurid text messages from 2 mobile numbers and 1 private number. Copies of these texts have been given to police together with the 2 known numbers. The investigating officer claimed that they had been unsuccessful in contacting the owner of the phones. The texts ceased for a while but then started up again, so I reported to the police a second and third time, but they refuse to act on any of my complaints. I am now being woken by calls from a private number almost every morning at 3-4am, unfortunately I need to keep my phone on at night as I have a very ill friend that only has me for support. I have reported this intrusion to the Police, but again they refuse to act.
I have since been told by my neighbour that the investigating officers are 'Drinking Buddies’ of his, so I have no recourse at all..I don’t call the Police anymore, as there is no point. So I just have to put up with his invasive, intimidating behavior everyday, I rarely leave my house, as I can’t bear to have him confront me.
I can assure you that his stalking and victimization of me is very real, I am not paranoid just very frightened. Can someone help me please? I have no one to turn to, I feel like I'm living in prison. I am very well educated, and have very specialised technical and artistic skills.....But I have virtually avoided living for the last 10 years. I can’t keep appointments, can’t work, can’t do anything outside of my home unless accompanied by someone I trust. I want to try to stand up to my creepy neighbour, and take back my life. I hope that posting here brings the support I’m looking for, so I’m posting this thread in the hope that I can get some feedback on the laws of ‘Stalking’, what constitutes stalking, and the possible legal avenues I can take to stop this insidious intrusion.
The Police claim that there is no way that I can prove anything and that I'm the one breaking the law by making 'vexatious' complaints, putting the reputation of a 'respected' Fire Superintendent into question. I’ve been warned to be very careful and in their words ‘Watch my step’, as filming & recording him is also a breach of his privacy. They say he has every right to sue me. I feel like I'm Alice living in an even darker version of Wonderland.
I’m sorry this post is so very long, but what am I going to do? I truly believe that the Police are protecting this monster. I have even thought of just leaving, letting the bank take my house. Selling my property is not an option, so I write this in the hope that someone will be able to give me some legal advice on where I go from here.
Because of this continued harassment and reaction from the authorities, I’ve lost all self-esteem and confidence; I can’t see my way ahead and am barely holding it together. What do you do when even the Police can’t be trusted to do their job?
This 'Creature' is so invested in terrorising me that he monitors everything I do, I have taken videos and recordings of the stuff he does and says, one that shows him hanging over the back wall saying 'I will never let you leave darling, I know you love me'. I have recorded these events in journals and kept the names of attending officers and event No’s.
The Police claim they misplaced the first 3 original copies of these nasty letters that I handed over to them. They asked me for the originals of all 40+ letters, and the 20 others that I question being attributed to my neighbour. I refused to give the originals, and the officers became annoyed that I was only willing to give them copies saying ‘How do you expect us to do our job if your not willing to give us the evidence? ‘We can’t be expected to do much with just copies, we need the originals’. As this is the most damning evidence I have against him, I will not let them out of my possession.
I have also been receiving numerous lurid text messages from 2 mobile numbers and 1 private number. Copies of these texts have been given to police together with the 2 known numbers. The investigating officer claimed that they had been unsuccessful in contacting the owner of the phones. The texts ceased for a while but then started up again, so I reported to the police a second and third time, but they refuse to act on any of my complaints. I am now being woken by calls from a private number almost every morning at 3-4am, unfortunately I need to keep my phone on at night as I have a very ill friend that only has me for support. I have reported this intrusion to the Police, but again they refuse to act.
I have since been told by my neighbour that the investigating officers are 'Drinking Buddies’ of his, so I have no recourse at all..I don’t call the Police anymore, as there is no point. So I just have to put up with his invasive, intimidating behavior everyday, I rarely leave my house, as I can’t bear to have him confront me.
I can assure you that his stalking and victimization of me is very real, I am not paranoid just very frightened. Can someone help me please? I have no one to turn to, I feel like I'm living in prison. I am very well educated, and have very specialised technical and artistic skills.....But I have virtually avoided living for the last 10 years. I can’t keep appointments, can’t work, can’t do anything outside of my home unless accompanied by someone I trust. I want to try to stand up to my creepy neighbour, and take back my life. I hope that posting here brings the support I’m looking for, so I’m posting this thread in the hope that I can get some feedback on the laws of ‘Stalking’, what constitutes stalking, and the possible legal avenues I can take to stop this insidious intrusion.
The Police claim that there is no way that I can prove anything and that I'm the one breaking the law by making 'vexatious' complaints, putting the reputation of a 'respected' Fire Superintendent into question. I’ve been warned to be very careful and in their words ‘Watch my step’, as filming & recording him is also a breach of his privacy. They say he has every right to sue me. I feel like I'm Alice living in an even darker version of Wonderland.
I’m sorry this post is so very long, but what am I going to do? I truly believe that the Police are protecting this monster. I have even thought of just leaving, letting the bank take my house. Selling my property is not an option, so I write this in the hope that someone will be able to give me some legal advice on where I go from here.
Because of this continued harassment and reaction from the authorities, I’ve lost all self-esteem and confidence; I can’t see my way ahead and am barely holding it together. What do you do when even the Police can’t be trusted to do their job?
