What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Iowa
I am 23 years old. I am a single mom. I have a lot of problems with my daughters father. He is a horrible person and the whole nine yards of nasty child custody battles. Everyone says that my mom and I should press statutory rape charges on him. Heres the story:
I was 15 when i met him. I was on the internet and he was chatting with me. He told me he was 18. we agreed to meet. We fooled around a little at first. He completely looks 18, lives at home with his mother. I believed him. When he told me he had something to tell me about his age, I could have sworn that he was going to tell me he was younger than 18. I was wrong! He was actually 23! At the time i was having problems with my step dad and talking to a guy who was interested in me for the first time was fun. especially when he drove a nice car. We had sex four weeks after we started seeing eachother. I helped him lie to my mom and step-dad. We continued to have a relationship. At 16 I moved out of my parents and into his (he was still living with his parents). when i was 17 i got pregnant. She was born six months after my 18th birthday. it was an extremely tumoltuous relationship. He lied to me constantly. Many times I found that he was chatting to young girls again on the internet. It disturbed me greatly. Finally after 5 years I left him. I was tired of his lying and manipulating me constantly.
So now I am here to this point. I would like to see him go away for it. Im almost sure that He still talks to young girls on the internet, manipulates them as well because he never stopped anytime i asked him to, and then made further efforts to cover it up(I chatted with the girls myself when we lived together, warned them, and told them they should back off for their own safety). I should have reported him for this when I had concrete proof, but when you are young and have a baby its hard to do these things to the child, like take their dad away. I am still struggling with this. Nevertheless, everyone is telling me and my mother to report him and try to press charges. Mostly because he continues to file unnessecary child custody petitions. I worry about him manipulating her as she gets older. she says weird stuff already, she says her daddy told her to say it. I am not a bad mother, I spend more time with her and teach her things and do more things with her than most anybody i know does with their kids. He just likes to throw tantrums.
Summing it all up:
Do I or my mother have legal rights to what he did to me? Does this effect the child custody issue or do they influence the other? Would it cost a large amount of money? Would lawyers or attorneys or detectives be able to subpeona MSN or AOL for his account information to prove what is being alleged? Would it still be able to go to court even though its been 8 years since the first time we had sex? Could witnesses and evidence be relevent enough?
I do not want to make this battle about me, but what he did was wrong, I am just now at 23 realizing what kind of person he really is.
I am 23 years old. I am a single mom. I have a lot of problems with my daughters father. He is a horrible person and the whole nine yards of nasty child custody battles. Everyone says that my mom and I should press statutory rape charges on him. Heres the story:
I was 15 when i met him. I was on the internet and he was chatting with me. He told me he was 18. we agreed to meet. We fooled around a little at first. He completely looks 18, lives at home with his mother. I believed him. When he told me he had something to tell me about his age, I could have sworn that he was going to tell me he was younger than 18. I was wrong! He was actually 23! At the time i was having problems with my step dad and talking to a guy who was interested in me for the first time was fun. especially when he drove a nice car. We had sex four weeks after we started seeing eachother. I helped him lie to my mom and step-dad. We continued to have a relationship. At 16 I moved out of my parents and into his (he was still living with his parents). when i was 17 i got pregnant. She was born six months after my 18th birthday. it was an extremely tumoltuous relationship. He lied to me constantly. Many times I found that he was chatting to young girls again on the internet. It disturbed me greatly. Finally after 5 years I left him. I was tired of his lying and manipulating me constantly.
So now I am here to this point. I would like to see him go away for it. Im almost sure that He still talks to young girls on the internet, manipulates them as well because he never stopped anytime i asked him to, and then made further efforts to cover it up(I chatted with the girls myself when we lived together, warned them, and told them they should back off for their own safety). I should have reported him for this when I had concrete proof, but when you are young and have a baby its hard to do these things to the child, like take their dad away. I am still struggling with this. Nevertheless, everyone is telling me and my mother to report him and try to press charges. Mostly because he continues to file unnessecary child custody petitions. I worry about him manipulating her as she gets older. she says weird stuff already, she says her daddy told her to say it. I am not a bad mother, I spend more time with her and teach her things and do more things with her than most anybody i know does with their kids. He just likes to throw tantrums.
Summing it all up:
Do I or my mother have legal rights to what he did to me? Does this effect the child custody issue or do they influence the other? Would it cost a large amount of money? Would lawyers or attorneys or detectives be able to subpeona MSN or AOL for his account information to prove what is being alleged? Would it still be able to go to court even though its been 8 years since the first time we had sex? Could witnesses and evidence be relevent enough?
I do not want to make this battle about me, but what he did was wrong, I am just now at 23 realizing what kind of person he really is.
