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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma
Here's the brief version of the background: My 22 yr old son met an 18 yr old girl who was 6 months pregnant by someone else. A couple of weeks before her due date, they were visiting friends on the next street when her mother arrived, took a metal chair and smashed up my son's truck, breaking a window and making a lot of dents. She was drunk and screaming obscenities. She was arrested but was out the next day on bail. The girl called me and told me she was terrified of going home. I let her come stay in my guest room temporarily until she could have the baby and get housing. Normally, girls don't stay here but I let my son stay as well since they were trying hard to be a family unit. She arrived with 4 baby outfits, the clothes on her back and a broken car seat. I bought basic baby furniture, clothing, etc. I bought her a couple of changes of clothing. I also bought all the formula, bottles, etc when the baby arrived. She gave the baby my son's last name although his name is not listed as father on the birth certificate. I did tell her that the baby things, in particular the furniture, were not hers to take with her. She could use them but I wanted to store them for future grandchildren.
When the baby was born, all seemed well until the mother showed up drunk and disorderly at the hospital. She had the girl's siblings with her (12, 16, and 17). They locked down the maternity ward and she was not allowed back. She and her other children went outside and urinated in my son's truck. This is on the surveillance video.
When the baby was about 8 days old, the girl wanted to go spend the night with her mother since my son was on night shift. A friend picked her up and they left. The next day, the baby's father threw a rock through the window of the house where they were visiting. Then she tells the police my son has kidnapped her and is holding her hostage. She shows up within 30 minutes with a police escort wanting to come in and get all her things and all the baby things. She had taken much of it with her when she went to see her mom. I refused to allow her in the house but said I would bring things out to her that she could have. I grabbed some garbage bags and included her clothes and a few baby things but not all of them. The officer wanted me to include all of them but I explained that they were never meant for her to keep.
Now for the issue.
They live in one county and I live in the next. They are well known to the police there and I know of at least 2 other families who have restraining orders (VPO's) against every member of the family.
The girl's mother and her paramour have been calling me on my cell phone. I answered the first two times but hung up when they were cursing and screaming at me. Now I let it go to voice mail. I have 5 voice mails in less than 2 weeks. They are very profane, call me some pretty awful names, and go into detail about how they will kill my son. In two of them, they are accusing him of driving my Grand Marquis up and down their street harassing them. They insist they have pictures. My son has NEVER driven my car. My husband doesn't even drive it. My car is locked in my garage unless I'm using it. We smoke in the garage rather than the house so I see my car all the time.
I can't get the police to do anything and I'm getting conflicting advice from them. One told me my son is as much involved as they are. However, my son is staying with relatives of a friend of ours. He works with them so he is with them all the time. His truck can't be driven now. They even check his cell phone when he's sleeping and those people's numbers do not appear on it. We know my son is not engaging these people.
I even had an officer tell me I was wasting their time by asking for a police report on the latest phone call. He said I was a nuisance and they wouldn't do anything unless I got shot or something. I know the people were told by the police captain in their town not to call me anymore but I continue to get calls. I've also been told by the police captain that they are trying to file charges against me for calling them. I asked if he had any phone records to back that up since I have voice mails and I can show my Sprint bill with the incoming and outgoing calls detailed. He didn't answer. I know that these people are in and out of jail and have many warrants. I've never had even a parking ticket and I have a highly visible responsible job and yet I feel I'm being treated as a criminal.
Now I'm hearing that a VPO in the county where I live will only keep them from coming into my yard. It won't keep them from calling me from the county where they are.
Does anyone have any ideas as to what I can do. I want the calls to stop. I can't change my number since I use this number a lot for work and to maintain contact with an extensive number of people in multiple states. I am now making taped recordings of all the voice mails so I can clear them out of my phone.
Here's the brief version of the background: My 22 yr old son met an 18 yr old girl who was 6 months pregnant by someone else. A couple of weeks before her due date, they were visiting friends on the next street when her mother arrived, took a metal chair and smashed up my son's truck, breaking a window and making a lot of dents. She was drunk and screaming obscenities. She was arrested but was out the next day on bail. The girl called me and told me she was terrified of going home. I let her come stay in my guest room temporarily until she could have the baby and get housing. Normally, girls don't stay here but I let my son stay as well since they were trying hard to be a family unit. She arrived with 4 baby outfits, the clothes on her back and a broken car seat. I bought basic baby furniture, clothing, etc. I bought her a couple of changes of clothing. I also bought all the formula, bottles, etc when the baby arrived. She gave the baby my son's last name although his name is not listed as father on the birth certificate. I did tell her that the baby things, in particular the furniture, were not hers to take with her. She could use them but I wanted to store them for future grandchildren.
When the baby was born, all seemed well until the mother showed up drunk and disorderly at the hospital. She had the girl's siblings with her (12, 16, and 17). They locked down the maternity ward and she was not allowed back. She and her other children went outside and urinated in my son's truck. This is on the surveillance video.
When the baby was about 8 days old, the girl wanted to go spend the night with her mother since my son was on night shift. A friend picked her up and they left. The next day, the baby's father threw a rock through the window of the house where they were visiting. Then she tells the police my son has kidnapped her and is holding her hostage. She shows up within 30 minutes with a police escort wanting to come in and get all her things and all the baby things. She had taken much of it with her when she went to see her mom. I refused to allow her in the house but said I would bring things out to her that she could have. I grabbed some garbage bags and included her clothes and a few baby things but not all of them. The officer wanted me to include all of them but I explained that they were never meant for her to keep.
Now for the issue.
They live in one county and I live in the next. They are well known to the police there and I know of at least 2 other families who have restraining orders (VPO's) against every member of the family.
The girl's mother and her paramour have been calling me on my cell phone. I answered the first two times but hung up when they were cursing and screaming at me. Now I let it go to voice mail. I have 5 voice mails in less than 2 weeks. They are very profane, call me some pretty awful names, and go into detail about how they will kill my son. In two of them, they are accusing him of driving my Grand Marquis up and down their street harassing them. They insist they have pictures. My son has NEVER driven my car. My husband doesn't even drive it. My car is locked in my garage unless I'm using it. We smoke in the garage rather than the house so I see my car all the time.
I can't get the police to do anything and I'm getting conflicting advice from them. One told me my son is as much involved as they are. However, my son is staying with relatives of a friend of ours. He works with them so he is with them all the time. His truck can't be driven now. They even check his cell phone when he's sleeping and those people's numbers do not appear on it. We know my son is not engaging these people.
I even had an officer tell me I was wasting their time by asking for a police report on the latest phone call. He said I was a nuisance and they wouldn't do anything unless I got shot or something. I know the people were told by the police captain in their town not to call me anymore but I continue to get calls. I've also been told by the police captain that they are trying to file charges against me for calling them. I asked if he had any phone records to back that up since I have voice mails and I can show my Sprint bill with the incoming and outgoing calls detailed. He didn't answer. I know that these people are in and out of jail and have many warrants. I've never had even a parking ticket and I have a highly visible responsible job and yet I feel I'm being treated as a criminal.
Now I'm hearing that a VPO in the county where I live will only keep them from coming into my yard. It won't keep them from calling me from the county where they are.
Does anyone have any ideas as to what I can do. I want the calls to stop. I can't change my number since I use this number a lot for work and to maintain contact with an extensive number of people in multiple states. I am now making taped recordings of all the voice mails so I can clear them out of my phone.