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Molly72
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I'm in Indiana.
Ok.. here's the story. At 1:45 this morning my 21 yr. old BIL called my house drunk and obviously distressed. He was asking for his younger brother(I live with the older). I knew he had done something for he kept telling me that he was leaving town. Eventually I handed over the phone as his mother was knocking on my door. This brother lives with his mother but had been staying with a "girlfriend" across the street from them. My MIL was crying hysterically saying that the "girlfriends" apartment building was on fire. By this time I got on the phone and confronted my drunk BIL and he admitted to starting the fire. My BIL has been previously admitted into a mental ward and has a history of mental problems in the family including his mother. My SO, his other brother, myself and BIL dad sat down with him last night after this telling him he needed help. We (two brothers and myself) pushed for him to go to "Charter" last night so they could run blood tests on him for we knew he wasn't smart enough to cover his tracks, and of course we were right. His father decided to instead take him to his home so they could "discuss" things. We dropped mom off at home for a few minutes to get somethings and the police showed up at her place. My SO, his brother and mother have all been interegated by the police today and are complying completely. None of us are in way shape or form condoning what he did. However at this moment we are in the process of having him evaluated to be admitted in the hospital and working on getting him a lawyer. We realize that even if he's admitted to the hospital that he will receive jail time also and everyone including him has accepted this. We have told him as long as he does the right thing we will support him 100%. We thank God that no one was hurt in the fire but we have stressed how his selfishness has left many people without a home. At this point no charges have been filed but we figure they can get him for breaking and entering, arson and multiple attemted murder charges. Our question is what are the odds of showing his family and personal mental history to help him get a lighter sentance since he's no longer intoxicated? We are fairly sure pot was involved and possibly other drugs also but we can't fully prove that now. I am against him making a statement to the police before he gets his lawyer for he's in a depressed state right now where he doesn't care what happens to him. I realize this 21 yr old has destroyed most of his life already I just want to see him get help. THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR ANY ADVISE!!
Ok.. here's the story. At 1:45 this morning my 21 yr. old BIL called my house drunk and obviously distressed. He was asking for his younger brother(I live with the older). I knew he had done something for he kept telling me that he was leaving town. Eventually I handed over the phone as his mother was knocking on my door. This brother lives with his mother but had been staying with a "girlfriend" across the street from them. My MIL was crying hysterically saying that the "girlfriends" apartment building was on fire. By this time I got on the phone and confronted my drunk BIL and he admitted to starting the fire. My BIL has been previously admitted into a mental ward and has a history of mental problems in the family including his mother. My SO, his other brother, myself and BIL dad sat down with him last night after this telling him he needed help. We (two brothers and myself) pushed for him to go to "Charter" last night so they could run blood tests on him for we knew he wasn't smart enough to cover his tracks, and of course we were right. His father decided to instead take him to his home so they could "discuss" things. We dropped mom off at home for a few minutes to get somethings and the police showed up at her place. My SO, his brother and mother have all been interegated by the police today and are complying completely. None of us are in way shape or form condoning what he did. However at this moment we are in the process of having him evaluated to be admitted in the hospital and working on getting him a lawyer. We realize that even if he's admitted to the hospital that he will receive jail time also and everyone including him has accepted this. We have told him as long as he does the right thing we will support him 100%. We thank God that no one was hurt in the fire but we have stressed how his selfishness has left many people without a home. At this point no charges have been filed but we figure they can get him for breaking and entering, arson and multiple attemted murder charges. Our question is what are the odds of showing his family and personal mental history to help him get a lighter sentance since he's no longer intoxicated? We are fairly sure pot was involved and possibly other drugs also but we can't fully prove that now. I am against him making a statement to the police before he gets his lawyer for he's in a depressed state right now where he doesn't care what happens to him. I realize this 21 yr old has destroyed most of his life already I just want to see him get help. THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR ANY ADVISE!!