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Teri N
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What is the name of your state? California
My son 16 yrs old/ girl 19 yrs old.
Thank you
My son 16 yrs old/ girl 19 yrs old.
Thank you
Teri N said:What is the name of your state? California
My son 16 yrs old/ girl 19 yrs old.
Thank you
Teri N said:If a 16 yr old girl is consensual and has sex with a 19 yr old boy it would be considered stat rape. Girls supposedly mature sooner than boys ...... Seems a girl of 19 having sex with a boy 16 should receive an even greater charge!
That's your opinion. Being a male in my twenties and still young enough to remember high school, I don't believe either sex matures earlier emotionally on the whole. That myth may extend from the pre-1960's era when girls were expected to act 'prim and proper' while boys were allowed more freedom. In a sexual sense emotionally, boys may actually adopt mature attitudes toward sexual activity earlier than girls. A study reviewed cases of alleged rape at a major midwestern university and found that half of the girls alleging rape at some point admitted to their therapists that they had lied about the incident. A smaller but significant percentage of teenage girls have a tendency to feel dirty and used after casual sex, or feel guilty in general after sex among other things. Reports of these things are virtually non-existent among young males, which is one of the reasons why age of consent laws are more important to protect girls than boys for psychological reasons. A study reported on CNN and other news networks within the last couple of months found that sexual activity was important to teenaged boys' self esteem and self image, and found a negative correlation with females. I think society recognizes this as well with the differing attitudes towards whether the younger person is male or female.Teri N said:If a 16 yr old girl is consensual and has sex with a 19 yr old boy it would be considered stat rape. Girls supposedly mature sooner than boys and still under the age of 18 can't make their own decisions legally about having sex.
Again, I don't think many people agree with this; it is widespread myth. In the event that you don't understand, perhaps you should take a tour through a female freshman dorm in college and see reality. If anything, it may be slightly the opposite....How can it be nothing and forget it when the boy is supposedly slower at maturing then a girl of the same age? Seems a girl of 19 having sex with a boy 16 should receive an even greater charge!
I would hope that he wouldn't have because it would be abnormal for a man to cry rape and claim he was victimized when he was a young man of (16!). It is legally not possible to pursue charges at this point. But why on earth would you or your son even consider this. Going to court and crying rape would be extremely embarrassing and shameful for a male. At the time, when he was a minor, had you pursued this you would have only caused him permanent psychological harm and publicly embarrassed him. I can't imagine any adult male or high school aged male ever even dreaming of it. I could understand if he were 12 at the time of conception. But he was not. He was a young man of 16; most males at this age are sexually active. Also, it would not surprise me at all to find out the truth was that 'he' was the one who seduced 'her', and that they were on a similar emotional level at the time, or that he was even a little more mature emotionally than she was. Moreover, the girl was only a few years older than him. It's not as if she was 35. You should be considering what is best for his emotional well-being, not trying to punish this young woman. It's not going to help her, it's not going to help him, and it's certainly not going to help your grandchild who likely wants both his mother and father to be there for him. Might I remind you again that your son and this girl are only three years apart in age and that they are adults? The young minor grandchild is the one who is going to suffer from all of this nonsense. Think of your grandchild for Christ's sake and what is best for him/der, and stop being so selfish. You should be encouraing cooperation among the two in raising their child, and also trying to a facilitate friendship. You should 'try' to be friendly with her, and hope that the father and the mother can also be friends and get along for the sake of the child. Grow up, start looking at this OBJECTIVELY rather than allowing your sore feelings to guide you, and stop acting immature about all of this. You're going to have to bury the hatchet towards this girl. You're only damaging yourself and everyone else involved.My son has never even considered filing charges against the girl. The stat of limitations question just came to me one day and I asked it here. I thought it would be a quick and simple answer..but I can see I was quite wrong!
In California, PC 261.5 covers statutory rape. Unlawful sexual intercourse (previously known as "statutory rape") is an act of sexual intercourse with a person who is a minor (under 18) and not the spouse of the perpetrator. The offense occurs even if the act is consensual and voluntary.Teri N said:What is the name of your state? California
My son 16 yrs old/ girl 19 yrs old.
Thank you