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I really need some advice bad.... Please bear w/ the long story, to try to get an understanding of the situation.
To start out, this is a "husband cheated on wife" dilemma, but really goes into something more. We'll just pretend it's me and my husband for argument's sake. I'll try to keep the background details as short as possible. Anyway, my husband found an "internet lover" last year and decided to bring her to America and keep her in an apartment that he co-signed for her and also hire her as an employee working for him (on a temp visa which is now expired). They had been having a relationship for several months, until one day when this lady called me out of the blue and told me about the whole affair. Apparently my husband had been telling her that he'd dump me, and buy her all sorts of stuff...and I guess she got tired of waiting. Anyway, it turns out that one of my husband's employee (let's call him John) was in cahoots w/ this woman to try to takeover his business.
My husband and I went to the woman's apartment to confront her about the conspiracy and take back all the things that my husband bought for the apartment. We wanted to cancel the lease as well, but since my husband was just the co-signer, the apartment wouldn't let him do it. Well, when we went to confront her she wouldn't open the door so my husband kicked it in (bad idea, I know). And yes, there was a lot of yelling and finger-pointing, but at no point was it physical until all of a sudden this woman goes psycho and starts screaming and running into the walls and punching herself and pulling her hair....really, it was a scene out of Fight Club, literally. I guess the neighbors called the police because of her screaming, and before they arrive, John (her partner in crime) comes over. Anyway, John tells the police he witnessed the whole thing and that my husband and I beat this woman (and really, she didn't even do any damage to herself except for that she was hysterical)!! It didn't look too good for us either, because the door was kicked in. So my husband and I spend the night in jail for assault and battery, and we call our attorney right away. He got us out and the charges dropped, but a week later we get served papers and the woman is suing us for abuse, emotional stress, and crap like that. She's also accusing him of rape now!!
We discovered that this woman and John got together to try to steal money from my husband and ruin the business so he could take it over. John found this woman on the internet and offered her money to help him do this. My husband was "con"ned, and we've already spent thousands of dollars on his stupidity.
Our attorney has all the e-mail documentation and everything that proves this was a mutual relationship. And actually she was the agressor w/ requests of marriage and to bring her to America, and that she'd love a new computer, jewelry, etc. She doesn't know English, and at her first court appearance she fainted, which was soooo obviously phony. Her translator happened to be a police officer friend of John's!!
Anyway, so far she has failed to appear for depositions, and she hasn't paid the rent and now no one knows where she is...not even her lawyer. We just got a notice from a collection agency about the apartment to pay for rent that she did not pay.
This last one is just the last straw. She called the local news station and told them that she was raped and wants to make it public that this known business man is a criminal. Next thing you know there's a news camera at the office wanting to talk to my husband. I'm about to lose my mind, and don't know what to do about the whole thing. I have forgiven my husband, but this woman will not leave us alone and every other week there's a new surprise. She is really out to ruin us and our lives, and sometimes I don't think our attorney is helping us do anything about it.
These are some things I've been thinking about and was wondering if anyone out there can shed any light...
1. Can't I call the INS on her since her visa is expired? Or is there an anonymous way I can contact the INS to notify them of illegal aliens?
2. If I can locate her (or her attorney can locate her whereabouts), doesn't she have to pay the collection agency for her rent back-pay. We're just willing to go ahead and pay this anyway so as to not affect our credit. And can't we take back everything that my husband bought her? She was never told that it was a "gift".
3. Can I counter-sue her for slander/libel? I can not even show my face in the community because she has run her mouth with lies all over town about me, calling me names and saying that my husband was running a corrupt business. It has totally ruined our reputation and now everyone is asking about it, and I can't bring myself to try to explain everything a gazillion times.
4. What about the local news...can she really accuse us like that and have it be on the air for the whole world to know? The case she has against us will be over in a few months, and it looks like it's going to be dismissed because there's no evidence. I think I will just "crumble" if anything is aired on the news. They couldn't just air that, could they?
5. Our attorney says we need to wait until the current case against us is resolved before we try to pursue anything else...putting it in terms of "don't wake a sleeping dog". Well, I've had it, and there's just got to be some way of stopping her w/ accusations, lies... ??
6. I want to retaliate, and what can we do to defend ourselves and our reputation? What would you do?
Everything just seems to be against us, and it's our word against hers...but why does it seem like she has the upper hand in this?
-Verge of a nervous breakdown
Like I said....I need advice bad!
To start out, this is a "husband cheated on wife" dilemma, but really goes into something more. We'll just pretend it's me and my husband for argument's sake. I'll try to keep the background details as short as possible. Anyway, my husband found an "internet lover" last year and decided to bring her to America and keep her in an apartment that he co-signed for her and also hire her as an employee working for him (on a temp visa which is now expired). They had been having a relationship for several months, until one day when this lady called me out of the blue and told me about the whole affair. Apparently my husband had been telling her that he'd dump me, and buy her all sorts of stuff...and I guess she got tired of waiting. Anyway, it turns out that one of my husband's employee (let's call him John) was in cahoots w/ this woman to try to takeover his business.
My husband and I went to the woman's apartment to confront her about the conspiracy and take back all the things that my husband bought for the apartment. We wanted to cancel the lease as well, but since my husband was just the co-signer, the apartment wouldn't let him do it. Well, when we went to confront her she wouldn't open the door so my husband kicked it in (bad idea, I know). And yes, there was a lot of yelling and finger-pointing, but at no point was it physical until all of a sudden this woman goes psycho and starts screaming and running into the walls and punching herself and pulling her hair....really, it was a scene out of Fight Club, literally. I guess the neighbors called the police because of her screaming, and before they arrive, John (her partner in crime) comes over. Anyway, John tells the police he witnessed the whole thing and that my husband and I beat this woman (and really, she didn't even do any damage to herself except for that she was hysterical)!! It didn't look too good for us either, because the door was kicked in. So my husband and I spend the night in jail for assault and battery, and we call our attorney right away. He got us out and the charges dropped, but a week later we get served papers and the woman is suing us for abuse, emotional stress, and crap like that. She's also accusing him of rape now!!
We discovered that this woman and John got together to try to steal money from my husband and ruin the business so he could take it over. John found this woman on the internet and offered her money to help him do this. My husband was "con"ned, and we've already spent thousands of dollars on his stupidity.
Our attorney has all the e-mail documentation and everything that proves this was a mutual relationship. And actually she was the agressor w/ requests of marriage and to bring her to America, and that she'd love a new computer, jewelry, etc. She doesn't know English, and at her first court appearance she fainted, which was soooo obviously phony. Her translator happened to be a police officer friend of John's!!
Anyway, so far she has failed to appear for depositions, and she hasn't paid the rent and now no one knows where she is...not even her lawyer. We just got a notice from a collection agency about the apartment to pay for rent that she did not pay.
This last one is just the last straw. She called the local news station and told them that she was raped and wants to make it public that this known business man is a criminal. Next thing you know there's a news camera at the office wanting to talk to my husband. I'm about to lose my mind, and don't know what to do about the whole thing. I have forgiven my husband, but this woman will not leave us alone and every other week there's a new surprise. She is really out to ruin us and our lives, and sometimes I don't think our attorney is helping us do anything about it.
These are some things I've been thinking about and was wondering if anyone out there can shed any light...
1. Can't I call the INS on her since her visa is expired? Or is there an anonymous way I can contact the INS to notify them of illegal aliens?
2. If I can locate her (or her attorney can locate her whereabouts), doesn't she have to pay the collection agency for her rent back-pay. We're just willing to go ahead and pay this anyway so as to not affect our credit. And can't we take back everything that my husband bought her? She was never told that it was a "gift".
3. Can I counter-sue her for slander/libel? I can not even show my face in the community because she has run her mouth with lies all over town about me, calling me names and saying that my husband was running a corrupt business. It has totally ruined our reputation and now everyone is asking about it, and I can't bring myself to try to explain everything a gazillion times.
4. What about the local news...can she really accuse us like that and have it be on the air for the whole world to know? The case she has against us will be over in a few months, and it looks like it's going to be dismissed because there's no evidence. I think I will just "crumble" if anything is aired on the news. They couldn't just air that, could they?
5. Our attorney says we need to wait until the current case against us is resolved before we try to pursue anything else...putting it in terms of "don't wake a sleeping dog". Well, I've had it, and there's just got to be some way of stopping her w/ accusations, lies... ??
6. I want to retaliate, and what can we do to defend ourselves and our reputation? What would you do?
Everything just seems to be against us, and it's our word against hers...but why does it seem like she has the upper hand in this?
-Verge of a nervous breakdown
Like I said....I need advice bad!