nightsky78
Junior Member
Missouri
Hello,
I am really needing advice, as no one will help me or my fiancee. Here is the story.
My fiancee's and his ex had a son together. She left him and took the baby with her, and hid the baby away. The father made multiple attempts to call her, but she still would make up excuses, and tell him he wasnt allowed to see the baby.
Anyhow to the point, she left when the baby was about 4-5 months old. In July of 2010, my fiancee got a phone call, not from her or her family, but from his dad, stating that he got news from an outside friend of the family that his son had passed away 2 days prior and they had already had the funeral! Not only did his ex or her family not notify my fiancee about his son passing away or any of his family but wasnt even told about the funeral.
Ok, we called the Medical Examiners office and requested a copy of the autopsy report. Here is the findings:
The mother stated the toddler almost 2, was up running around playing and happy the day and night before but had fell down and got bruises.
In the autopsy,
It was stated there was brain swelling, there was bruising and abrasions and hematomas under his scalp and face, and they stated one of his corneas in his eye was discolored, which really makes me wonder why. I don't feel that a simple fall would cause brain swelling and a discolored cornea in the eye, what came to mind was shaken baby syndrome but thats my opinion and what it make me wonder.
It was stated that he had pneumonia in both lungs.
It was stated the toddler had tested positive for THC.
the official cause of death was pneumothroax or collapsed lung.
Here are my concerns and issues, and opinions. Me and my fiancee are wondering why she has not been brought up on abuse, or neglect or endangerment charges because everywhere I read, I am finding parents being arrested and charged with child endangerment, and neglect, and abuse.
My fiancee called the police dept. and they stated they was not going to make any arrests, and said there was not enough evidence????!!!!!
Here is my thoughts
I have read studies proving that THC exposure is correlated with pneumothorax, or collapsed, lung which, is what his cause of death was. I also read that in order for a child to have THC like that in thier system that usually there was a large amount in small closed in areas for the toddler to have been inhaling the substance.
In all the sick toddlers I have seen with pneumonia, they was very sick, running high fevers, coughing, congested, and had a hard time breathing, so I have my doubts that her stating he was up running around playing and she didnt know he was sick is not true. I honestly believe that the baby would still be here if the mother would have taken him to the ER for urgent treatment. I believe that she did not because she was afriad if they ran blood test and found out the baby had large amounts of THC in his system they would have charged her right there and taken the baby in custody.
What do we do if the police department wont do their job?
They even said there was no report wrote on this??
We spoke with the medical examier, but do we start there, and ask them to get involved and call the police dept with the findings, or for them to call dfs even if he is deceased to do an investigation?
I feel something needs to be done, like I said how is THC in a babys system that died NOT ENOUGH evidence to charge a parent and arrest them when THC is illegal! I doubt they even tested her and they should have.
Do we contact an attorney if so what type? Do we contact dfs, the medical examiner? Do we ask the Medical examier to contact the police dept? How do we get them to do an investigation and press charges. We need advice on the right channels since the police dept was rude to us and would not help us and stated they will not press charges and just because a child passed away with THC in thier body does not mean or prove anything and that we are not a medical doctor, so imo by that statement like that from the pd that we wasnt a medical doctor, that makes me think that I need to go back to the medical examiner and have them contact the police dept? If they refuse then what do I do, or if the police wont listen. Please help this is driving us crazy.
He passed away in June of 2010 and we have been just running in circles with the police dept and they have been very rude and not helpful in any way to us.
Please give us advice if we need an attorney to intervene or if they can even help, and or the steps we need to get law enforcement to do a proper investigation, and get the medical examiner to state his opinion to help in the case.
you can email me at [email protected] also if you have any advice or know anyone that would help. thanks
Hello,
I am really needing advice, as no one will help me or my fiancee. Here is the story.
My fiancee's and his ex had a son together. She left him and took the baby with her, and hid the baby away. The father made multiple attempts to call her, but she still would make up excuses, and tell him he wasnt allowed to see the baby.
Anyhow to the point, she left when the baby was about 4-5 months old. In July of 2010, my fiancee got a phone call, not from her or her family, but from his dad, stating that he got news from an outside friend of the family that his son had passed away 2 days prior and they had already had the funeral! Not only did his ex or her family not notify my fiancee about his son passing away or any of his family but wasnt even told about the funeral.
Ok, we called the Medical Examiners office and requested a copy of the autopsy report. Here is the findings:
The mother stated the toddler almost 2, was up running around playing and happy the day and night before but had fell down and got bruises.
In the autopsy,
It was stated there was brain swelling, there was bruising and abrasions and hematomas under his scalp and face, and they stated one of his corneas in his eye was discolored, which really makes me wonder why. I don't feel that a simple fall would cause brain swelling and a discolored cornea in the eye, what came to mind was shaken baby syndrome but thats my opinion and what it make me wonder.
It was stated that he had pneumonia in both lungs.
It was stated the toddler had tested positive for THC.
the official cause of death was pneumothroax or collapsed lung.
Here are my concerns and issues, and opinions. Me and my fiancee are wondering why she has not been brought up on abuse, or neglect or endangerment charges because everywhere I read, I am finding parents being arrested and charged with child endangerment, and neglect, and abuse.
My fiancee called the police dept. and they stated they was not going to make any arrests, and said there was not enough evidence????!!!!!
Here is my thoughts
I have read studies proving that THC exposure is correlated with pneumothorax, or collapsed, lung which, is what his cause of death was. I also read that in order for a child to have THC like that in thier system that usually there was a large amount in small closed in areas for the toddler to have been inhaling the substance.
In all the sick toddlers I have seen with pneumonia, they was very sick, running high fevers, coughing, congested, and had a hard time breathing, so I have my doubts that her stating he was up running around playing and she didnt know he was sick is not true. I honestly believe that the baby would still be here if the mother would have taken him to the ER for urgent treatment. I believe that she did not because she was afriad if they ran blood test and found out the baby had large amounts of THC in his system they would have charged her right there and taken the baby in custody.
What do we do if the police department wont do their job?
They even said there was no report wrote on this??
We spoke with the medical examier, but do we start there, and ask them to get involved and call the police dept with the findings, or for them to call dfs even if he is deceased to do an investigation?
I feel something needs to be done, like I said how is THC in a babys system that died NOT ENOUGH evidence to charge a parent and arrest them when THC is illegal! I doubt they even tested her and they should have.
Do we contact an attorney if so what type? Do we contact dfs, the medical examiner? Do we ask the Medical examier to contact the police dept? How do we get them to do an investigation and press charges. We need advice on the right channels since the police dept was rude to us and would not help us and stated they will not press charges and just because a child passed away with THC in thier body does not mean or prove anything and that we are not a medical doctor, so imo by that statement like that from the pd that we wasnt a medical doctor, that makes me think that I need to go back to the medical examiner and have them contact the police dept? If they refuse then what do I do, or if the police wont listen. Please help this is driving us crazy.
He passed away in June of 2010 and we have been just running in circles with the police dept and they have been very rude and not helpful in any way to us.
Please give us advice if we need an attorney to intervene or if they can even help, and or the steps we need to get law enforcement to do a proper investigation, and get the medical examiner to state his opinion to help in the case.
you can email me at [email protected] also if you have any advice or know anyone that would help. thanks