JordanSammi
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT
Hello everyone. This is long, for that I apologize but I need to give you a history too. My question is does anyone think I have grounds for a civil lawsuit for negligent emotional distress, false arrest, defamation, slader, libel or even intentional emotional distress. Thank you for you opinions!! I have changed all names.
Marie is my husband Edward's mother. I met Edward in 2005. I have two children ages five and ten. James was born in 2002 and Andrew was born in 2006. James is from a previous marriage. We have been together seven years and married since 7/9/11.
Marie was always prying and over-stepping her boundaries. When she came to our house she would re-arrange things, throw out food she thought was bad for us, tell us what we're doing wrong, etc. When Andrew was a few weeks old in 2006 we had to live with her for a month. She would get up in the middle of the night when he was crying and take him out of my arms and feed him etc. Neither my husband nor myself knew how to deal with any of this so we decided to go to LCSW Montell. We stayed in counseling from 2007 to 2011. Almost all of our sessions were about Marie. The invasive behavior of Marie became so constant and it seemed like it would never end until I left Edward. I did separate from Edward from February 2009 until May 2009.
James who was about six in 2007 told us that she lets him swim in the lake by himself because there were other kids there watching him. I started asking him what else he is allowed to do alone. He said he waits in the car with Andrew while she goes grocery shopping; he can walk around campground by himself because "he's smart and knows how to get back to grandma's camper". So Edward decides to tell her that she can't do these things and that she needs to keep a better eye on the kids and never leave them alone. We think she listens but she doesn't. One day she decides to tell me that she left Andrew in the car alone ( James was in school) but she left the heat on for him (car running) and was only in the drugstore for five minutes to get diapers and wipes. I filed a report with CPS in May of 2011 regarding this specific incident. After that Edward tells her that she cannot take kids alone and she will have to see them when we have time to bring them over. There were other safety concerns we brought to her attention that she never corrected. For example, she didn’t have a gate at the top of two flights of stairs and there was a towel under a large heavy tv that was easy to pull down. Both things Marie would not correct.
LCSW Montell decides we should bring Marie to a counseling session one week so we can let her know that her behavior is very invasive.
When she sees our therapist Montell on 1/17/10 with us she says that she just left Andrew in the car for a minute. She tells Montell that I spend too much time sleeping, watching tv and not Andrew. Montell explains that Andrew is not her child and leaving him in the car alone is not acceptable. She will not accept that she put Andrew in danger because “it was only for a minute”. Montell feels that Marie has a toxic enmeshment with my husband and that she has narcissistic personality disorder and Montell was surprised that Marie hasn’t been institutionalized yet. Montell thinks that Marie’s behavior is going to get worse.
On one occasion Marie shows up at our door in hysterics while I am the only one home. I let her in and she’s crying about wanting to take the kids.
On another occasion she comes over and I hear her saying to James "why did you tell your mom I leave you alone and let you swim in the lake by yourself. Now you're not going to be able to come over anymore, and this weekend I'm going camping and you cant go because you told your mom everything and now she’s not going to let you." I told my husband what she said and he said she’s probably mad at you so she's directing towards James. He calls her and she denies it all.
Montell suggests to Edward that he tells his mother we all want some space from her and that she gets a therapist in the mean time. Things escalate dramatically from then on.
Marie writes emails saying how it's all me manipulating him to ask for a break and that I'm a _____ and he can't seem to see it. She says that I'm nasty and vicious to her (never have been and even my husband told her not true), she says I'm mentally ill and needs help, that he is brainwashed by me, I have transformed him, that she will tell the kids when they're older that I kept them apart. She also said that she believes I have the devil inside me and that I need to stopped and punished by God and she can't wait for the day something bad happens to me for all the pain I'm causing her, and that karma is going to get me.
Edward asks Marie not to contact him. He emails her to get a counselor and after some time we'll re-visit this situation and come to an agreement as to when she can see and talk to kids once and awhile. She sends him an email that says "you don’t love me you don’t even f*****g know me".
For the next few months Marie calls Edward ever other day, stops by his morning job at a bar, texts him, calls his other family members to get them to call him and convince him to talk to her etc. She writes him letters in the mail, sends religious cards and drops off gifts at our doorstep. She says to friends and family that she's praying all the time for his eyes to be open about me and that I get what's coming to me. He emails her to tell her to stop showing up places, emailing, mailing gifts and letters and to give him space but she doesn’t. Her phone numbers get blocked from his phone and she calls from family members phones, cell phones of her friends and her work phone lines.
A few days later she writes in an email that if there is time before we move to FL that she is filing paperwork to take us to court to try to get grandparents rights.
At some point in May 2011 I get a phone call from Officer ____ asking me to come down to the station in regards to an incident involving Marie. I retain Attorney ______ and she sends the cop a letter requesting that he correspond through her. My thoughts are she was trying to stall move by having me arrested, you cannot re-locate or move during an open charge. Then she would have time file for grandparent visitation time.
Hello everyone. This is long, for that I apologize but I need to give you a history too. My question is does anyone think I have grounds for a civil lawsuit for negligent emotional distress, false arrest, defamation, slader, libel or even intentional emotional distress. Thank you for you opinions!! I have changed all names.
Marie is my husband Edward's mother. I met Edward in 2005. I have two children ages five and ten. James was born in 2002 and Andrew was born in 2006. James is from a previous marriage. We have been together seven years and married since 7/9/11.
Marie was always prying and over-stepping her boundaries. When she came to our house she would re-arrange things, throw out food she thought was bad for us, tell us what we're doing wrong, etc. When Andrew was a few weeks old in 2006 we had to live with her for a month. She would get up in the middle of the night when he was crying and take him out of my arms and feed him etc. Neither my husband nor myself knew how to deal with any of this so we decided to go to LCSW Montell. We stayed in counseling from 2007 to 2011. Almost all of our sessions were about Marie. The invasive behavior of Marie became so constant and it seemed like it would never end until I left Edward. I did separate from Edward from February 2009 until May 2009.
James who was about six in 2007 told us that she lets him swim in the lake by himself because there were other kids there watching him. I started asking him what else he is allowed to do alone. He said he waits in the car with Andrew while she goes grocery shopping; he can walk around campground by himself because "he's smart and knows how to get back to grandma's camper". So Edward decides to tell her that she can't do these things and that she needs to keep a better eye on the kids and never leave them alone. We think she listens but she doesn't. One day she decides to tell me that she left Andrew in the car alone ( James was in school) but she left the heat on for him (car running) and was only in the drugstore for five minutes to get diapers and wipes. I filed a report with CPS in May of 2011 regarding this specific incident. After that Edward tells her that she cannot take kids alone and she will have to see them when we have time to bring them over. There were other safety concerns we brought to her attention that she never corrected. For example, she didn’t have a gate at the top of two flights of stairs and there was a towel under a large heavy tv that was easy to pull down. Both things Marie would not correct.
LCSW Montell decides we should bring Marie to a counseling session one week so we can let her know that her behavior is very invasive.
When she sees our therapist Montell on 1/17/10 with us she says that she just left Andrew in the car for a minute. She tells Montell that I spend too much time sleeping, watching tv and not Andrew. Montell explains that Andrew is not her child and leaving him in the car alone is not acceptable. She will not accept that she put Andrew in danger because “it was only for a minute”. Montell feels that Marie has a toxic enmeshment with my husband and that she has narcissistic personality disorder and Montell was surprised that Marie hasn’t been institutionalized yet. Montell thinks that Marie’s behavior is going to get worse.
On one occasion Marie shows up at our door in hysterics while I am the only one home. I let her in and she’s crying about wanting to take the kids.
On another occasion she comes over and I hear her saying to James "why did you tell your mom I leave you alone and let you swim in the lake by yourself. Now you're not going to be able to come over anymore, and this weekend I'm going camping and you cant go because you told your mom everything and now she’s not going to let you." I told my husband what she said and he said she’s probably mad at you so she's directing towards James. He calls her and she denies it all.
Montell suggests to Edward that he tells his mother we all want some space from her and that she gets a therapist in the mean time. Things escalate dramatically from then on.
Marie writes emails saying how it's all me manipulating him to ask for a break and that I'm a _____ and he can't seem to see it. She says that I'm nasty and vicious to her (never have been and even my husband told her not true), she says I'm mentally ill and needs help, that he is brainwashed by me, I have transformed him, that she will tell the kids when they're older that I kept them apart. She also said that she believes I have the devil inside me and that I need to stopped and punished by God and she can't wait for the day something bad happens to me for all the pain I'm causing her, and that karma is going to get me.
Edward asks Marie not to contact him. He emails her to get a counselor and after some time we'll re-visit this situation and come to an agreement as to when she can see and talk to kids once and awhile. She sends him an email that says "you don’t love me you don’t even f*****g know me".
For the next few months Marie calls Edward ever other day, stops by his morning job at a bar, texts him, calls his other family members to get them to call him and convince him to talk to her etc. She writes him letters in the mail, sends religious cards and drops off gifts at our doorstep. She says to friends and family that she's praying all the time for his eyes to be open about me and that I get what's coming to me. He emails her to tell her to stop showing up places, emailing, mailing gifts and letters and to give him space but she doesn’t. Her phone numbers get blocked from his phone and she calls from family members phones, cell phones of her friends and her work phone lines.
A few days later she writes in an email that if there is time before we move to FL that she is filing paperwork to take us to court to try to get grandparents rights.
At some point in May 2011 I get a phone call from Officer ____ asking me to come down to the station in regards to an incident involving Marie. I retain Attorney ______ and she sends the cop a letter requesting that he correspond through her. My thoughts are she was trying to stall move by having me arrested, you cannot re-locate or move during an open charge. Then she would have time file for grandparent visitation time.
